Trying to Get Pregnant

I need some help.

My sister in law just found out that she isn't able to have kids.  They have tried just about everything.  Nothing is working.  My husband and I started TTC last month. My DH is wanting to tell his parents we are ttc but I personally would like to tell his brother and sister in law first but I don't want to hurt them.   I don't know how we should tell them.  I know it could be months before I get pregnant but I would like to tell them we are trying so it isn't such a suprise. Does any one have any suggestions?
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Re: I need some help.

  • If it were me....I dont think I would tell them just yet.  If I just found out that I couldnt have kids, I would need some time.
  • Honestly, I probably wouldn't tell them... we didn't tell anyone that we were trying and I don't see any reason too.  Is there a reason you feel the need to tell??  Obviously, it will hurt when you tell them you are pregnant but I don't think telling them you are trying will help that.
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  • imagejune21jbr:
    If it were me....I dont think I would tell them just yet.? If I just found out that I couldnt have kids, I would need some time.

    ditto!!?

  • taagenttaagent member
    I agree with pp.  I don't think you should say anything to anyone just yet.  Why does he want to tell his parents anyway?  I would give it some time and if in the meantime you do get KU I would tell your SIL/BIL first.  If you would like other opinions you can go over to the trouble ttc board, they may have additional insight.
  • My BFF has fertility issues.  She has been TTC for 7 years and has went through two rounds of IVF.  When we started TTC (with DD#1) I simply told her that we decided to TTC and left it at that.  That part really wasn't hard since we were able to talk about TTC issues and frustrations.  When I found out I was KU - that was the hard part because I new she would be upset.   

    Good luck!

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  • ondjimaondjima member
    Dont tell anyone! I wish I hadn't. It just makes things weird, people will start looking at you expectantly everytime you see them. Plus I dont think you'r family will appreciate you telling right now. It really doesn't make any sense to tell them!
  • I agree with the PPs, I wouldn't tell them you are TTC.  I would also considered holding off on telling your in-laws as well. 

     

  • I think by telling them it will only make it worse.  They will be expecting some news everytime they see you and I don't see how that could be good for them.
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  • Thanks!  I really want to hold off.  I just have to get my dh to wait.  I kept telling him that if i was her it would kill me.  I do know that if he tells his parents my mother in law wont be able to keep her mouth shut. 
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  • imagejune21jbr:
    If it were me....I dont think I would tell them just yet.  If I just found out that I couldnt have kids, I would need some time.

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