ttc and friends dealing with IF

jtbmommy

Do you ever put off your ttc plans because of family or friends with IF? I had been thinking about it but not ttc because I knew sil had been trying since I got pg with ds (who is now over 2). Now I know she is pg I feel like I am suddenly ready. It would have killed me to say we were pg with #2 before they had one.But I know I am ready and who knows how long it will take us

DH and I have thrown caution to the wind, but I also have a friend who is in the tww of her 2nd iui. If I got pg this month and she didn't I would feel guilty telling her. ALso we have 4 friends in our group. Come Oct we will all be TTC # 1 or 2. I would hate for all 3 of us to pg and the one girl still havin trouble. 

In short- do you put off ttc because of others?

oparcm

No, I only considered my dh and myself with ttc.  I don't think you should plan life around others. 

Temp159135562506975

as someone who dealt with IF- i would be embarassed to find out one of my friends put off their own TTC plans b/c of MY IF treatments.... IMO- that would just be silly... My problems are my problems- and i would never expect someone to put their family on hold b/c of my problems.

it's nice of you to think of it- but seriously- do not ever put your life on hold b/c of someone else's life that does not effect yours.  If you do get pg - telling them in a sensitive way is the best thing you can do.... but to hold off would be a huge overkill IMO.

Rebekah1021

Nope. I do think about the others who are struggling, but I don't plan my life around them. Now, that I am the one is who is struggling, i can understand what the other must be going through, but I don't expect anyone to put their lives on hold for me.

jen5-03

No, you can't live your life around others.

I dealt with IF for over 2 years. My BFF got pg with twins her first month TTC. Was it hard for me? Yes. Would I have wanted her to do anything differently? No.

With infertility it can take years and years to conceive, especially if you have to save up money in between tries. And sadly, it may never happen for some people. You can't wait for that.

summerbrideDC

ditto what the other girls said. ?You are so sweet to be concerned for the feelings of your friends dealing with IF, but you can't put your life on hold for them. ?