After 3 "unpleasant" responses from "friends" this evening re us adopting (the comment: "why dont you save the name Savannah for your real baby" is what really did it). I sat down and wrote a note which I let DH approve and I posted it on FB in my notes amd on my page- I am still awaiting the comments and I'm shaking because a few people did know of our IF but now we're "out"....the note is below:
I seldom explain myself to persons beyond my immediate circle of close friends and family but in light of the accusing emails, looks of shock, borderline confusion and disappointment I feel compelled to break a rule.
Yes the rumor mill is right and .... and I are (cautiously) in the process of adopting a newborn girl- we have named her Savannah after the hotel that ... asked me to marry at. She is beautiful; perfect, healthy and we love here already although a window of opportunity does exists for this to go ?wrong?
Savannah?s birthmother is unable to take care of her and she loves her enough to offer her the opportunity to have a different life in a 2 parent household; us- and we have accepted.
This coupled with our infertility issues; (I have bilateral blocked tubes) has made this ?situation? that more fitting for us, we both have a desire to raise a child- she may not have grown in my tummy but she has grown in our hearts.
We are still capable of having biological children (visit http://barbadosivf.org and read up on IVF) and we very well may in time to come and God willing when/if this day comes we will have a larger family; built differently but the foundation just as strong if not stronger.
We just felt the need to clear the air and offer some insight into what we do consider a private matter but something that needed to be said.
Adoption is a beautiful thing and infertility issues or not is a blessing, Savannah will be treated, loved, respected and welcomed the same as if she had come from our bodies because our spirits have given her life.
Feel free to ask me/us anything & please do not interput this note to be one seeking your permission (we are both adults and have discussed this matter thorougly with our families) but instead offering you a look into us that you may have not otherwise been afforded- and a closer look at infertility, adoption, family and...love .