MY TURN - help me PLEASE!
jacksjerseygirl
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DH and I were not planning to go 'active' with our agency until May 25. I just received a call for a baby boy born a few days ago in a near by state. The BM has already left hospital and wants nothing more to do with the 'situation'.
Did I say we weren't even thinking about calls like this until May 25.
I feel VERY UNPREPARED! I had planned to interview pediatricians over the next few weeks. I planned to make a list of everything I need to pack, take with me, every one I should call.
If you have already created a 'preparedness' list - please email it to me or post it. [email protected]
I'm waiting for the SW to contact me back with additional medical and other history but as of now it sounds like a match.
Oh and did I mention I can't reach my husband? We had planned to make special ring tones for each other so that he would know my call was 'important' ... yeah ... he's in NYC and not answering ...
sincerely,
freakingoutjerseygirl
Re: MY TURN - help me PLEASE!
Wow! This might be it!?
Deep breaths, deep breaths! ?
Lol. This!
What everyone else said...just remember that a list of "things" doesnt really matter much. One trip to Babies R Us for basics like a infant car seat and a pack N play would be all you need. The hospital would likely give you what you need for the first few days at least (the loaded us up with preemie formula, diapers, etc,). If this is meant to be - then YAY!!! Everything will be OKAY.
with that said **HAPPY DANCE!!**
Holy Moly this board has been busy....Just remember....Babies need food, diapers (you have cloth if I remember right), car seat. The rest can be done later. I would call friends with kids for a Dr.
Congrats!!!
Oh My!!!!
Details as soon as it's reasonably possible, please!!!
So excited for you!!!!
Okay. I've taken a breath. My husband called FINALLY. I ate some bacon (that solves everything).
Good news is that it is a neighboring state and the baby is at about 7 hours away, which means we could stay at a hotel right up against the border which would be about 40 min from our home.
I am CDing and I have BG 3.0s but I hadn't ordered the newborn kissluvs yet! UGH! Maybe the baby will have chubby legs and the BGs will fit.
For being such a controlling, organized, always prepared person - I messed up this one!
Now that I'm thinking more rationally. I sincerely hope this is not a 'drill/false labor' ... there is a chance it could be. GLARES AT THE PHONE ... come on SW call me .... call me ... I feel like one of those people one tv who wants to pick up the phone to make sure there is a dial tone and it is working.
Okay, Jacks, STOP!
Now...what's the worst that came come of being "unprepared?"
You have to run out at midnight for something? Check, that's normal for any first-time parent.
You feel rushed and harried? Check, that's normal for any first-time parent.
You don't know what to do first/next? Check, that's normal for any first-time parent.
You are overwhelmed? Check, that's normal for any first-time parent.
See where I'm going with this? No matter what, things would have been crazy. You'll just be a little more harried than most, but think of it as a way of finding out what's essential and what's fluff. You won't have to spend on a lot of stuff you'll never use. Now, just think about how blessed you are not to have a long wait, and START PLANNING!
What's first? As someone said, ask a friend for a doctor recommendation. Do you have a car seat? Don't worry about formula/bottles just yet, you may want to find out what he's using now first. A few burp clothes, some clothes, and a place for the baby to sleep, and you are on your way!
I'm so hoping this is it for you! How exciting! BEST OF LUCK!!!!!
Uhhh I can read.
A little boy! EEEKKKKK have I said that yet?
SQUEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!! That is all I have to add that is useful as everyone else has covered the rest. Except go order your Kissalovs now and while not ideal baby can wear "paper pants" until they arrive! and while you are getting diaps you can pick up a car seat. Is your dr a family dr? in which case he/ she can be listed as the dr at least for now until you find one that you really want.
Good luck and keep us posted!
I 3rd this. Just make sure you've got a car seat, some formula, and some diapers. I'm sure that the hospital and SW will even be happy to help you out.
And YAY! YAY! YAY!
WOW!!! How exciting! PP's pretty much covered it all, so I have no more sage advice, but I hope everything works out for you and .......remember to BREATHE!!!! Best of Luck!!! keep us posted, and BTW: CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!
PS I can NEVER reach my DH when I need him, either....and he's always lurking around when I DON'T need him!!! LOL!!!!
EEEEEKKKKKKKK OMG OMG OMGGGGG!!!
Text him! I suck at list so nope I'm no help there; but our match was also unplanned but I'm beleiving that everything is a blessing and well I think this situation is grrrreat!!!!!
Keep us posted!!!!
I am SO HAPPY for you guys! Yay!!!!
Congratulations!
I know I'm getting in on this late, but you can be prepared in no time. We got the call for Ben at 1:00 and left at 5:00 the same day, drove 12 hours and left the hospital with him at 1:00 the next day. Yes, in 24 hours I was a mommy. We got some essentials before we left and there was a Wal-Mart 2 minutes from our hotel.
If it feels right to you when you get all the info, then go for it. Newborns do not need very much at all.
IVF #1 1/10-transfered 2 blasts- DS born 10/2010
March 2015- Chemical pg
1/25/16- BFP Beta1 12dpo = 17, Beta 2 14 dpo = 28.. resulted in one beautiful boy born 9/21/16
Now I'm a stay at home loving life and pursuing my love of photography!!!
Don't worry about being "prepared". Trust me there is no way to really be prepared. We went to Target at least one day during our out of town stay.?
As for the cloth diapers, don't worry about that. Holden is 10 days now and still can't wear them because of his circ. The vaseline can not be used on cloth (from what I understand) without messing them up. Plus, while staying in hotel, the last thing we needed were dirty cloth diapers. Sposies weren't that bad for a little bit.
Crossing fingers for you. What's in the water this month? This has been a crazy month for our group. ?
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