I kept my cool, showed zero emotion, was respectful, and stated the facts. I told him to seperate our family life from our professional one. Indicated that i felt that i was at a dead end regarding this company. After a ton of excuses, he admitted full responsibility.
Started talking about DH (he works here too) - and I promptly put a stop to it saying that I do not speak for DH on a professional level and he would need to speak to him privately. Also indicated that he should not hinge the future progression of the company based on my marriage b/c it wasn't fair. (he probably now thinks that DH and I are on the outs.)
In the end, we'll see if he actually follows thru on all of his promises. They've been empty in the past, so I don't hold much hope. But I said what I needed to say, and i feel empowered.
Thank you girls for hearing me out thru all of this. Thank you for standing behind me, supporting me and encouraging me. Big hugs to each of you. You are such wonderful friends!