GRRR....How would you respond to this email???

mommymeg914

If one more person tells me how big I am for 25 wks I think I might scream! I just got an email from an old friends mom who saw a pic of me and she said "you are big for 25weeks are you having twins????  congrs. on the new member...." I still don't understand why people think that its okay to say things like that, especially since I haven't seen the woman since about 6th grade!

taelir

I wouldn't even bother responding to it.

I just think those comments are out of line.

whidbeymomma

And the really funny thing is that you don't look "that big" for 25 weeks. You look like everyone else that far into it!

Cruisebride1208

People are so stupid! And you don't look huge at all! Don't bother responding unless it's full of snark. lol

KrystalD7

I wouldn't bother. As brutal and out of line it is to say that to anyone, it's not worth getting worked up about.

I think we are all having to fight the urge to throat punch someone at any given time.

foxlm22

whidbeymomma:

And the really funny thing is that you don't look "that big" for 25 weeks. You look like everyone else that far into it!

 

I was thinking the same thing, you look adorable!  You just have to let the comments roll off your back...I think people just love to talk to or about pregnant people.  I think the intent behind their comments is sincere.  

 

DiscusCoach

I think big, especially for older women = healthy. I try and look at it as a different culture but it sucks because you want to throat punch people sometimes.

My MIL is convinced that, the sicker I am w/ m/s, the healthier the baby is going to be. What can you do?  

FutureHardings

I agree with taelir... no response is really needed.

I just don't understand what people think happens to us when we're pregnant. Especially women. Did they forget all about this pregnancy stuff, or are they just prone to be obnoxious?

snsgurl728

Just delete! Your bump is cute! People just don't understand that every pregnant belly is different. Not everyone pulls their head out before they speak!

I LUBBINS YOU!

Why bother with a response.  You haven't talked to this person in how many years? 

Mrs.Teddy

people are rude and stupid. seriously

FWIW you are not that big for 25 weeks (I am bigger and 2 weeks behind you). I get it all the time too. My mother is the worst, I don't think they understand it can actually be offensive. Just ignore. I think you look great, very cute bump!

PuppyMommy

I experienced pretty much the same thing earlier this week and it really upset me.  Someone I haven't spoken to in 12 years sent me a FB message saying, "You look large already!!!!"  Thanks.  I already am self-conscious about this.  Why the H must you feel the need to point it out?  This woman just also had a baby, so you'd think she'd know better. She also told me to continue to eat the banana splits and not worry what anyone says.  I really wasn't worried until she messaged me.  This was yesterday and it still bothers me.

I just wrote back that I am not concerned about my weight. I was nice, but I kept it short.

The other week I had an ex email me that he was looking at my wedding pics on My Space and thought I looked too thin.  WTH?  I just can't win and when will people learn to NEVER comment on someone's weight?

wordtoyourmother

If most people thought they were coming off rude and were hurting your feelings they probably wouldn't say it. 

I would joke back with a response of the like of  "Gee thanks. I'm developing a complex over it, please don't remind me of how huge I'm getting".  

 

mommymeg914

I LUBBINS YOU!:

Why bother with a response.  You haven't talked to this person in how many years? 

Let's see I guess its been 14 years since I have seen or talked to her. What really gets me is her daughter is pregnant with number 3, and with all of her pregnancies she has gained a lot (an unhealthy amount) of weight. But I would NEVER say anything to her or her daughter.

 

Thanks to all of you! You made me feel better and less self conscious!

jmubride2

If it makes you feel any better:  I am having twins and I'm currently about as big as you are!  I'm screwed!  Luckily no one has had the balls to say anything to me yet about how big I've gotten.  I've only been told "Wow you look pregnant"  umm thanks, and last week I looked fat?

meg1974

Someone asked me if I was having twins the other day. Everyone who has had a baby or two thinks they are an expert, and if you aren't exactly like they or their friend measured at a particular point, that means you are too small or too big. I don't know what makes people think they have the right to say things like that. I have never - and will never - do that to a pregnant woman.

Evelynsmom

taelir:

I wouldn't even bother responding to it.

I just think those comments are out of line.

Ditto