Vent: DH and TTC

Married2MrWright

UGH!   I am annoyed.  For all that I've gone through to get ready to TTC...completely overhauling my diet and exercise regime.  Cutting out all coffee and alcohol.  Switching to organic bath and body products in addition to organic foods.  Going of BCP and having PMS from hell not to mention the worst breakouts ever...waking up at an ungodly hour to temp (so that I am not awoken by the cat or DH getting ready for work), POAS to please the CBEFM...take a handful of vitamins each night that make my pee day-gIow yellow....I could go on and on.

All I have asked DH to do is to cut out alcohol the week of O (this week) and to take a daily vitamin.  

He has refused to do both.  Thinks I am "going too far" and tells me I need to relax.  Then offers me a glass of wine.  I am so pissed! Good thing we're not scheduled to have sex until tomorrow.  For real. 

lisanov13

I'm sorry - men don't get it. period.  Or at least mine doesn't either! 

 

 

 

livvielo

I totally hear you--my husband and I repeatedly talked about how we were both going to commit to taking better care of ourselves by eating better, taking vitamins, and cutting down on the alcohol. His idea of eating better was getting a sandwich from Subway at lunch instead of pizza, and not having a drink one night a week.

amnda1130

So sorry he is being a man!  Although I was happy to read the post and realize that it is not just me who feels like we talk about things but I am the only one following through on the discussion!

CharBart

Vent away!!  Men can be such idiots at times! 

itsmexine

::bangs head on computer:: Some men just don't get it. My DH is included in that from time to time too. I have to keep him out of the bath tub and the beer.

hollymichael

Arrrrghhh!!  Men can be so difficult sometimes.  I wonder why he is fighting you on the vitamins.  That doesn't seem so difficult.

lisanov13

A older wiser woman told me once that men don't change their behavior for others the way women do.  They just don't - at the time I thought that was ridiculous, now years later I get what she was saying. You are definitely not alone.

Laura Cochran

Ummm yeah, my DH would promise to cut back drinking to only one day a week and then only in moderation. That would last a few hours until his friends would ask him to get a drink with him and it was all out the window.  He assumed that since he already had a kid he was fine- even after we got the results from the SA that said otherwise. Men are maddening.

Married2MrWright

livvielo:

I totally hear you--my husband and I repeatedly talked about how we were both going to commit to taking better care of ourselves by eating better, taking vitamins, and cutting down on the alcohol. His idea of eating better was getting a sandwich from Subway at lunch instead of pizza, and not having a drink one night a week.

OMG!  I think we're married to the same man.

Married2MrWright

hollymichael:

Arrrrghhh!!  Men can be so difficult sometimes.  I wonder why he is fighting you on the vitamins.  That doesn't seem so difficult.

He says, "you have to be careful with microminerals" and agreed to take a men's formula multivitamin every other day.  That's if he remembers.  I have no idea where he gets his information.

shyntrue

I'm sorry you are having DH problems...  :::sending UN-stubborn dust to your hubby:::  LOL

GymDogFran

Wow.  I guess I'm not alone!  I never complained about this because I was embarrassed.  My DH refuses to cut back on drinking because, he says, "How would so many people get pregnant drunk, if it mattered?  Especially these young kids?"  "BECAUSE they're young!!" I always say.

He doesn't get it.  I'm going to let the RE deal with this directly as soon as we get that far.  Maybe he'll believe a doctor.

pnltybox

Oh my God........I'm so glad I'm not alone on this one!!  (although I'm sorry your DH is being such a freakin' GUY!!)

We just had a similar arguement a few weeks ago about how I felt that I was the only one TTC:

• I POAS more days a month than I care to admit (where's that surge?)
• I take meds that make me a total raving wack-a-loon
• I research pregnancy/infertility info constantly
• I take vitamins
• I take my temps
• I stick my fingers in my vajay-jay to check what kind of CM I have
• I'm trying to eat healthy and exercise more in hopes to lose a few pounds (which, dr says, may contribute to my fertility issues)

This is the short list.  What does HE do??  He just shows up for the "party"!!  Can you please at least ask me how everything's going.....act concerned....PRETEND even, to know where I'm at in my cycle??  Are WE having this baby or is it just ME?? 

Darnnit if I don't absolutely love him to death!!!  Ahhhhhh, men.....can't live with 'em, can't have a baby without 'em!!