A little annoyed...maybe its just me (vent)

alexisz523

My uncle (who is 51) recently married a younger woman. We love her to death but she is only 5 years older than me (kinda weird). Well DH and I got married in October-- in August they announced they were getting married in September, a month before us. I was a little ticked b/c we have all the same people coming to our wedding just a month later. Well when we got our BFP my new Aunt said to me "you wouldn't be mad if we were pregnant together would you" (didn't really like that comment very much)..now they already have 3 kids (2 together and one from his previous marriage). Well, we just found out the sex of our baby and announce it and what do you know, they announce they are pregnant. She was like "we should have a joint shower"... I don't do JOINT anything.. sorry, call me a brat but I'm not sharing MY baby shower with her..I'm really P.O b/c its like every time we do something they hop in front of us or try to steal our spotlight. I know I probably sound like a 5 yd old but it is so frustrating. Also, my mom is pissed b/c they always do this. My uncle (moms brother) asked her to throw my Aunt a shower...what??? She had a shower for her 2nd baby and now she wants another one.. my mom said NO, I am planning my daughters (lol). Sorry for sounding like a baby but this week has been crappy and I'm hoping it gets better.

::vent over::

browneyes_24b

Hang in there - DH and I have siblings who are the same way.  They try to steal away spotlights that don't exist except in their own heads.  We've gotten to the point where we just laugh at them.  Try not to get too upset about it, your LO's arrival will be a very exciting thing for your family!

christin3580

Thats assining... Im glad your mom said NO though LOL

AllisonLeigh

Thats a little weird. I would be angry too though. Just think at least you get to have your baby first

AMYfromKY

I don't think most people have a shower for any other baby than their 1st.  I would be angry if I were you as well, but just go on, have your shower your mom is throwing you, and jsut ignore it.  People will already be looking at her weird since she is having ANOTHER shower.

JewelzNBean

Yeah, that sounds super annoying!!! I am a girl who likes my own thunder, too (luckily, there is no one around to steal it!!).

No one should ever have to have a joint shower (unless they really wanted to). I know you can't always control when someone else gets pregnant, but there's no need to jump in front.

sweetyface77

((HUGS)).  Vent away girlfriend, vent away.  I think it kind of sucks and you are annoyed because this is your first baby and you want to experience it your own way...Joint Shower???  What is that all about!  I'm glad your mom stood up to your uncle about hosting the baby shower.  I would smile, be cordial, but remember that it's up to you to enjoy your own pregnancy and make it as memorable as you want.  GL!

AliciaSpring

I understand completely! While my sister was PG first it is her second and so my Mom was throwing me a shower and not her b/c it is her second girl. LOng story short she was trying to steal my thunder with our first and I finally broke down and told my Mom in a blubbering and angry way. She sat down with both my sisters and told them to let me have the spotlight since it is my first and they had their firsts and didn't have to share. You have every right to be PO b/c it is your first afterall!!

junebug05

I have no advice but I feel your pain.  DH's brother is 2 years older then him and his wife is the same age as us and they are so competitive about everything.  We feel like they always try to 1-up us and they drive us nuts.  They have a son who is 9 months (lol, coincidence?!?!) younger then our DS and I am just hoping they don't rub off on him too much because I don't want my son growing up feeling like he's in constant competition with his cousin.  GL!

NOVAMommy5

1) The whole thing kind of creeps me out. 2) It's her fourth baby.. most people don't even get showers after they have their first. (I'm not expecting one for this baby) 3) I honestly would feel a lot like you do about this. I had a joint shower at work when I was PG with DD, which was just fine especially since she was a friend of mine to boot, but a joint family/friends shower seems a bit much, even if it were her first baby. Anyway, hope your week gets better!

one_more_girl

I feel your pain!  My DH's brother proposed to his fiance the DAY after my DH proposed to me!  We started looking for a new house, within a few months they had bought a new house!  We got a new truck, within about 6 months they had a new car.  Were happy for them, but it just seems like odd timing.  I don't understand why it has to be like this sometimes with people.  I'd tell her the same, no you'd like your own shower!  Plus you should have one months before her since you seem to be farther along. 

sgrl

So this is her third baby and she wants to have a "joint" shower with you - and it's your first baby?!? Uhhhh NO!

mrsmel

i'd be annoyed too.

and what is she thinking she's getting a shower for with two kids already?

Breezer80

Ew. She shouldn't even be having a shower if she already has kids ... I hate greedy ppl.

afg

First of all - I love your siggy - you look awesome and I love your dress (I want one like that lol - do you mind if I ask where you got it from?)

And as for your uncle - I'd be annoyed too.  If this is the woman's third child then why in the world does she expect a full blown shower? and to share yours? umm no.

Kudos to your mom for setting her brother straight!  You should tell them that you're planning something really out there for the birth to see what they'd say/do lol

SweetPeaLover

Esssh some people just suck. Im sorry you are having to deal with this but at least you have your mom to back you up....and anyone that matters will see that they are being juvenile.

alexisz523

Thanks! I got it at Macys and its by I.N.C.

Jessica Kovacs

That sucks!!! You should be able to enjoy your first baby with your family without this distraction. And they should know better having had 3 kids. A sprinkle for them, sure - but to suggest you should share your shower is just insensitive of her. I would feel put out too.

But I'm sure your family is very excited about your first baby and that it will be very special regardless.

allowry

No reason to apologize, I wouldn't be very happy either!

seaturtle19

i don't think you are acting like a 5 yr old....this is your special time and it does feel like they are stealing your spot light.  She should NOT be having a shower to begin with if this is her 2nd child and should know to say that to her husband, your uncle.  i am sorry this is happening during 2 very important events in your life, marriage and a baby.  hang in there.

mitzi goodson

I really just don't understand people sometimes, especially other women.  Does she not remember when she was pregnant the first time?  i am sure that she did not want to share her spotlight with anyone & for her to keep trying to take yours is insane!  I think that someone needs to talk to her about the way she is acting & let her & your uncle know (in a nice way) that if someone wants to throw her a shower that they will offer; is is rude to ask someone to host a party/shower for yourself!!  Try not to let her get under your skin to much & just enjoy the wonderful shower that your mom is planning for you!!

mrs_sherod

So unfortunate that must of us have carbon copy couple!  They seem to think it's funny and cute and it really isn't!  I have a friend who was engaged before me, but put off wedding plans.  I called her one day to get her address so I could mail an invite to her, and she all of a sudden decided to get married at the courthouse a few weeks later.  She wanted to move to our apartments, but her husband did not want to, so she moved pretty close to us.  We purchased a home, she said she would wait until the next year, but no way, we settled June 15th, she was house hunting in July!  I had problems with my lender at closer and advised her not to use them, she used them anyway!

NO JOINT SHOWER!!!!  How dare she try to steal your thunder!  You are allowed to have a temper tandrum, I have them all of the time!  Not sure of her situation, but why can't HER MOM plan HER baby shower???  Some people are always searching for the limelight!