Are you calling friends/family if you go into labor in the middle of the night?

idoinjuly

We live out of state, so it's not like anyone will rush to the hospital or anything.  We were planning on just calling everyone first thing the next morning if I go into labor in the middle of the night.  My bff is all butt hurt about it.  She said that her feelings are hurt and that she must be trying to make herself feel more important than she is.  I'm not even calling my own mom!  Are we wrong here?  Maybe I'm being insensitive without knowing it.

chels0120

We'll only call parents even though my mom will be the only one close enough to make it down in time for the delivery. Friends will be informed the next morning!

MidwestTexan

Our families are both out-of-state, so we told them that if it's a reasonable time of day, we'll call right away but if it's some crazy hour of the night, we'll wait until the next morning. They were all fine with it!

starz080

We'll call both sets of grandparents even if it's in the middle of the night, but that's it.  We're out of state too and they'll both have to drive a ways to get to us.  But DH will call everyone else the following morning.

beth thacker

We will call our parents but thats it. We'll call everyone else once the baby has arrived!

librarianlisa

If everyone lived out of state, I would wait til morning. Heck, I would like to wait til morning anyway, but MIL wants a call no matter what time. I asked SIL about it this weekend, and she said to wait until 6 or 7 in the morning since, as my first labor, it's likely to be long. If your bff really wants a call, I'd just do it. Or a text?

chounTX

Parents only when I do go into labor.  Everyone else - including my sisters - will wait until a normal hour. 

cnchavez69

If it is in the evening everyone will get a call in the morning.  I'm not trying to have people call me all night.

Steffsjet

I will be beaten to an inch of my life if I don't call my mom, sister and MIL.  All of who live out of state.

The grief I got for waiting all of 2 days to tell them about the BFP....holy hades!

mavilabride

I am hoping I'll go into labor in the middle of the night so that I can use it as an excuse not to call anyone.  Everyone will be expecting a call and will show up if we tell them we're there.  To do what? I have no idea but they'll be there.

My daughter and I have a deal.  If she enters the world between 2 and 4AM, I won't embarrass her when she's in high school.

Jamie Sonnenleiter

It is completely up to you. I am going to call key people, such as my mom and DH's mom. Everyone else can wait until after delivery.

DDK513

If your BFF really wants a call at 3am, then I say go for it, and then see how thrilled she is.

NHGirl04

I will send out a mass text to my mom and sisters and a few friends who want to know as well! I am not talking to people on the phone while in labor!

lbap

We haven't thought this through yet, but we have said that we might not even call anyone until the baby is born.  Is that wrong?

SouthernBellelovesaYankee

We may call our parents if it's in the middle of the night. Everyone else can wait until morning.

Plus, we have to take Major to my mom's house.

Lovin Wife

starz080:

We'll call both sets of grandparents even if it's in the middle of the night, but that's it.  We're out of state too and they'll both have to drive a ways to get to us.  But DH will call everyone else the following morning.

Ditto, my mom has to fly down and we all want her here as close as possible, so I want to give her time to plan and catch a flight.  My Dad and sister will come later, DH's mom lives 10 mins. away so we will call her just to keep her informed.

2bejunebride06

We probably will call my mom and his parents if I went into labor in the middle of the night, but our friends we would just call/email in the morning.

idoinjuly

Her husband called me when she went into labor at 3am and I wasn't very thrilled!!  He was mortified that he was calling me at that hour but she insisted.  I was out of state at that time too.

jillchrispy

No, my family/friends wouldn't be getting a call. Your bff should understand if you are not even calling your mom. You should do your labor and delivery your own way. I don't think a phone call at 6 am vs. one at 3 am gives anyone the right to be mad at you.?

violetvilla83

We are away from both sides of the family but are going to stay with his family before the baby comes. Text messages are awesome! Everyone gets the point but you don't have to call them.

Temp159135562506975

we'll probably send out a text or email to our immediate family- no reason to wake them and scare the sh!t out of them with a middle of the night call... esp since we don't want anyone to come to the hospital anyway.

opallover

we will call our family out of the city when I go into labor but most of my labor will hopefully be at home... I will call my parents when we go to the hospital - they live like down the highway from us.

i'm texting friends after he's born.

Little_Star

I'm hoping to labor at home for awhile so we'll probably call our doula and then take it from there to see when she thinks would be the best time to let our parents know what's up.  My dad is going to stay with our older son and we plan to have our moms in the delivery room so we'll basically play it by ear with how things are going.  Both of our parents live about an hour and a half away.

luckibrat

Same situation here, all family is out of state except for my little sister (and she doesn't want to be around until labor is over). I'm not planning on calling anyone but my Mom and only b/c she has made me swear we'd call her the second I go into labor. DH will probably call his parents as well but that is it and they will be instructed to not call us-we'll call with updates when we are ready.

julygal

All our family is out of town.  With DD we called our parents on the way to the hospital and we text messaged our sisters.  One message got to 3 people and they got the message when they looked at their phones.  We called them in the morning to make sure they got the message.  No one complained to us. 

Debbie_0708

As soon as they verify that I am actually in labor, I'll call my mom and dad. They live a 3 hour flight away and will book the next flight to Chicago, so they want to know ASAP, no matter what time of day/night.

My in laws actually do not want to know anything until the baby is here.

vilicious

We're seriously considering not calling them until either the baby is BORN or shortly beforehand... and both our families live about 10 minutes from us.

We kind of want this time to be just us, without feeling like we have to "entertain" people while I'm in labor.

 

PS, they will definitely be totally pissed if we do this.

robbie3982

We're not calling anyone when we go into labor.  I might text the bff, but that's it.  We don't want people to come to the hospital until we've moved to the postpartum floor and that won't be until about an hour or so after delivery.

ericalea511

Speed Dial! Who cares! My family would be so angry if we didnt

schmoodle

I don't really want to call anyone, even my mom, until the baby is born, so DEFINITELY not in the middle of the night. I don't want people there while I'm in labor. Although right now I'm looking at a scheduled c/s so may be a moot point.

SoonerMagicMama

I hadn't even thought through a middle of the night/wee hours of the morning scenario.  DH and I have generally agreed that we're not calling the parents (all of whom live 3+ hours away) until we're checked into the hospital and know that labor indeed is underway.  I plan to labor at home for as long as possible with our doula and to minimize the time in the hospital.  In a perfect world, everyone will arrive right around the time of baby's birth.  If DH and I have to spend the first hours or so with our LO by ourselves, that actually sounds pretty good!  I think even if we were checked into the hospital at 2am, I'd still make the call to all the parents, adn would totally leave it up to them whether they choose to get on the road immediately or wait until a more reasonable hour.  Extended family and friends will likely all get a text blast sometime after LO arrives, regardless of the time of day/night.

We're planning a natural childbirth, so I don't need a party in our LDR suite as I'm trying to concentrate through the contractions.  My girlfriends do have a lovely tradition of creating a baby watch party at the hospital and I'm a bit sad to not have all that support, but in my circumstance I know concentration is more important.  I actually haven't discussed my intentions with my girlfriends because I don't need the anxiety of knowing that I disappointed their plans for a baby watch party.  We'll just turn it into a baby's here celebration party.

trinise

I am we are a very tight knit family and I want them to share the experience with me!!

dimake

Only because we'll need my parents to watch our daughter!  Otherwise I probably wouldn't call anybody until the next morning.

melhearts

 I will be the calling the ones that I want in the delivery room with me, which is my mom and sister.  Then everyone else will be getting a group text on our way to the hospital.  It really doesn't matter what time of day I go into labor I will not be calling everyone they will be getting a text. 

innes1015

We have no intentions of calling anyone until LO is here (even parents).  Parents will be informed regardless of time, but others will wait until 'normal' hours.