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JoJoEspana
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Hey, so remember the knot?
JoJoEspana
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Remember when you were engaged, and eveyething seemed like such a big deal? I remember when my sister got pregnant and her due date was less than a week after my wedding, I was soo mad at her. I thought she was trying to steal my thunder, lol. Its so embarrassing now that that was such a big deal to me. Of course after a few days I was totally over it and so excited, etc.
I also was super pi$$ed at my mom because she refused to send in her RSVP card. Actually it still makes me a little mad because I think it was a power play on her part, but whatever.
Did you freak out over anything trivial when planning your wedding? ... maybe I was just a bridezilla, hahaha
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Re: Hey, so remember the knot?
I am LMAO at you being pissed at your mom for not RSVPing! Hilarious!!!
You do sound like you were bridezilla. Isn't it amazing how perfectly normal sane people can go crazy after they get engaged? You're in good company. I have so many friends who are sweethearts who completely lost their minds over wedding planning.
DMoney will be a kickass big sister
Whoo...I would have NEVER pegged you for a bridezilla! Ha ha.
I'm gonna go ahead and pat myself on the back for how smooth my wedding went. Even though there were tornado warnings the morning of my 2 o'clock wedding, everything was gravy.
My mom had a lot to do with it. She's a caterer (and not a little backyard caterer either). She makes a living off insane $50,000 weddings and is double and triple booked every weekend between May 1 and the end of September. Anyway, Mom provided linens, glassware, tableware AND did all the flowers. Her old business partner (who runs another catering company here in Atlanta: Added Touch by Sandra) prepped most of the food. Because of the huge family involvement, everything went off without a hitch!
My sister designed and letterpressed my invites. A dear friend from college who's a photog for the AP and NY Post did my pics. The dress was bought at a sample sale and my stepmom (a seamstress) did all alterations.
The one real pisser about my wedding was that DH's father didn't show. This cast somewhat of a pall over everything and has resulted in a very damaged relationship to this date. I could have strangled that man AND his rotten biotch of a wife (DH's stepmom).
I had to have everything my way. Period. And b/c of this, i was super stressed about the planning b/c i felt like i had to do everything myself, or it wouldn't be done right.
In retrospect, it was a perfect wedding, I worked my a$$ off for it.
But i could have just let a few things go and it wouldn't have mattered and no one would have noticed.
I do remember screaming at my mom & sister one afternoon while we were dress shopping b/c they were bickering at each other and it was really taking the fun out of everything. So I told them that I would never invite them to go with me to do things again. And I didn't. I still look back a dress shopping with regret b/c they ruined it for me.
Yep, every little detail was a major decision for me. And a major fight w/ my mom. My mom and dad (divorced and both remarried) paid for the wedding. My step-mom was very open to my ideas, my mom said that it was her money so she had final say in everything. We had a lot of fights, but in the end, we both agreed that they were worth it b/c everything worked out in the end. There was only one detail I would have changed in the end and that was the photographer. I have nice pictures, but they aren't the style I would have chosen. It was a battle I wasn't willing to have w/ mom, so I settled.
Other than that, looking back now, there are a few things that I can't believe I made such a BFD over!
At the time, I was taking the train into NYC every day for work and I would sit for an hour each way on my laptop pouring over details. ? Making lists for the bridal party. ?Sending out newsletters. ? Making diagrams of how I wanted the set up for the reception facility. ?Making lists of what they needed to have on hand that day (like how many pieces of linen, what type of chairs and how many, how many steps from the staircase they guest seating should start...) ?I made lists of songs for my DJ. ? I made laminated cards of everyones contact info for anyone remotely involved in the wedding. ? Wedding party, family, vendors, etc.?
The day my wedding rolled around, I did NOTHING to follow up on all my crazy lists. ? ?I did not get the cocktail height tables I had specified with floor length table cloths. ?I did not say a word. ? I did not get the stations arranged the way I had diagramed. ?I did not say a word. ?My DJ played none of the songs on my play list and I did not say a word.?
In the craziness of the day, none of that seemed important to me. ? But I have issues with how some stuff ended up. ? My favorite part of the whole day was my ceremony. ?I never watch the footage from the reception. ?I could have skipped that and been happy. ? Which I guess is good because the ceremony is the only part that really matters. ?
I was pretty laid back about the whole thing which drove a few of my overly ocd bridesmaids crazy. I didn't have a bunch of lists, or a notebook, etc. They were all worried that I was going to forget something important. Which they should have been worried about was making sure I had some breakfast because I was more than a little tipsy by the time to walk down the aisle. I did turn a little crazy the day of though because we got married outside at the beach (with a back up indoor location) and this one guy that was doing the lighting was the biggest.freaking.negative.nancy I have ever met. I finally pointed at the door and said "YOU"RE OUTTA HERE" in an incredibly dramatic fashion.
The only planning thing I stressed most about was picking out my date. I had a pg. bridesmaid whose brother was getting married on the most convienent day for us so I had to pick another which didn't work the best with DH schedule but I guess it was fine in the end. Now, we can just never spend our anniversary (yesterday!!) together b/c it's in the middle of soccer playoffs.
I don't think I was too bad. I do remember telling one of my bm's who just got married that if she became pregnant, she should feel free to excuse herself from the wedding party. It was said as a joke, but there were serious undertones and I think she was a little mad at me for it. For a long time I felt bad, but now she is getting a divorce and I am so happy there are no children involved. So I have removed that guilt from my mind.
Pretty much I focused all my energy on my MIL - everything she did annoyed me. From planning the 100 person rehersal dinner (that I came to call her wedding), to having to arrange timelines the day of around her hair and make up people, to the 15 shopping trips she made for a dress and ended up having one made that resembled a hot pink prom dress. OMG - thought I was over these things, but I guess since she is driving me insane again regarding DS, it all just comes back.
I did do a ton of planning beforehand, but I wasn't mean or crazy to other people. The day of, I just let things happen. I knew I just wanted to enjoy that day.
I thought I?d be a ball of stress the entire time I was planning the wedding but I didn?t end up stressing near as bad as my mother. Since my parents were paying for the entire thing my Mom thought that she had final say on everything. She got mad because I wanted brown candles and not white. She demanded that the candles on the fire place mantle be white and not brown or she wouldn?t pay for this or that. My Mom also didn?t understand why we had to get gifts for all of the bridesmaids and groomsmen. Two weeks before the wedding we got into it and she started throwing towels down the stairs at me and I ran out of the house crying. (I still can?t believe DH married me after that scene.) My mom got so mad at my cousins the day of the wedding because when they showed up at the house to have their hair done they hadn?t had showers yet. She was so mad she started yelling and cursing at them. I hadn?t been that afraid of her since I was a little girl. My Mom was also SO afraid that she would be late for everything that she showed up to the rehearsal an hour early. The day of the wedding she thought the same thing and wanted to leave an hour and a half before we could even get into the facility. A couple of bridesmaids and I snuck up to my old bedroom to watch the UGA vs. Kentucky game (Yes, I still remember who they played?DH will not let me live it down that we had to get married on a game day) and as she went over the intercom in our house 5 different times telling me it was time to leave. I eventually went downstairs when I was ready to go. I then road with one of my bridesmaids instead of my mom to the venue. I regret this, though. I remember looking out the car window and seeing how disappointed she looked.
I still rec Flowers by Joanne...she was AWESOME and great prices LOL.
The planning was ok, I got engaged around Thanksgiving and we were married Early July, so I didn't ahve alot of time. I do regret not inviting a few more people. I think I was a little stressed as I planned everything and payed for all but the food at the reception, thanks dad, and I came off as a bridezilla to my sister......she called me one night to have words that I was being insensitive and then hugn up on me....this is the monday before the wedding, though I think she was as much as fault as me. Fun times.