I'm soooo in debate-what to do what to do???(kinda long)

bennettwed

So our nursery is not going to be done by the time baby comes, we are adding on to our house, it's just a two bedroom right now, we are adding on 1 to two more bedrooms and another bathroom.  My hubbs is finishing a play room in the downstairs right now also.  Anyway, well we were just planning on putting the crib in our room until the nursery got finished, but my little girl who is four is now voiceing her opinion after hearing us talk about the crib being in our room and is insistant that she wants her baby sister in her room.  ?????  I keep going back and forth on what to do... On the one hand i'm worried that with baby waking up my 4 yr old will get bothered by the crying.. on the other hand i think well I know i could go get the baby imediatley and we have a basinet to keep in our room so i could just put her in there the rest of the night.  My 4 yr old has trouble getting to sleep on her own because i always rocked her to sleep or laid down with her but even if I just sit in her room on her bed or in a chair she does great going to sleep on her own, so maybe her just knowing someone else is in there even if it's just a baby will help her getting to sleep.  I"M so lost on this one, NO IDEA what to do????  Any suggestions?  Anyone else been through this before that has other children already??  She just keeps telling me and telling me how much she would just LOVE to have her sister in her room with her.  AHHHH 

annibes

Well, think of it this way- if it doesn't work out, then you have the mess of explaining that you have to take the crib out and that the baby is going to sleep in your room.. which could lead to your daughter thinking it's her fault that it didn't work out. Honestly? I would tell your DD that babies need to stay with their mommy and daddy at first but maybe they can share a room when the baby gets older.

jkipp82

My sister only has a 2 bedroom house - so both of her boys share one room.  When the 2nd was born, the first was just under 2 years old.  At first the baby slept in a bassinet in her room...but they've shared ever since with no problems. 

Sorry - that's all the insight I have!

annibes

And you could always bring a basinette or PnP in there for naptime- and compromise that way.

bennettwed

The other thing, is I know that all the kids at the in home daycare she goes to now nap together in the same room, and there are 4 babies, I'm going to ask her daycare provider how she does, if it seems to wake her up when the baby's cry??  That info might help a little.  I'm planning on staying home after the baby is born, I stayed home with my daughter for the first 2 years, I couldn't imagine  not doing the same with this one.

Jenny3

I wouldn't do it - not until they are older. I have a 5 year old and she is super excited about the baby. The idea of having a baby in her room I'm sure is appealing, but in reality I think it would be more of a nightmare for all of you than anything.

I would just keep the baby in with you, then move her into her new room. Once your girls are older (maybe 2 and 6), I'd put them in together.

sophabelle

Jenny3:

I wouldn't do it - not until they are older. I have a 5 year old and she is super excited about the baby. The idea of having a baby in her room I'm sure is appealing, but in reality I think it would be more of a nightmare for all of you than anything.

I would just keep the baby in with you, then move her into her new room. Once your girls are older (maybe 2 and 6), I'd put them in together.

 

ditto this.