Question spurred by SIL's doucheyness

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Is it really possible to not have a due date? I know doctors sometimes change due dates depending on how the baby is measuring, but everyone in the family was asking when she was due and she said they hadn't given her a date, but it would be "sometime in September" At the same time, she knows she was 16 weeks at her last ultrasound. My response is "WTF?"

Stacy092306

That seems weird to me.  I got a date after my first u/s with the RE and at my first OB appt.   

staycee

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My response is "WTF?"

I agree

 

Alex17

that seems a little weird. You would think they could date the pregnancy from the ultrasound.

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That's what I thought. She's either stupid, or a AW. Or both. My money is on both.

easjer05

The above is likeliest, but there has been a movement recently (to which some OBs ascribe - even put it before ACOG, but it was shot down as official policy) to eliminate the idea of an EDD.  People get really caught up on it, and really, it's artificial.  It doesn't mean anything - the baby can come 3 weeks before that and be full-term, or 2 weeks after and be perfectly healthy.

And while they can accurately date pregnancy, giving an edd sometimes creates problems with both mandatory and elective inductions.  Some doctors prefer to give a week or even up to a month of time in which the baby will likely appear/be full term.

So she isn't necessarily crazy or wrong.

easjer05

Oh, and when I was pregnant, I didn't give people the edd - I always said "Beginning of June" because I didn't want to deal with crazy phone calls and stuff.  I figured I'd head it off if I was vague.

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easjer05:

The above is likeliest, but there has been a movement recently (to which some OBs ascribe - even put it before ACOG, but it was shot down as official policy) to eliminate the idea of an EDD.  People get really caught up on it, and really, it's artificial.  It doesn't mean anything - the baby can come 3 weeks before that and be full-term, or 2 weeks after and be perfectly healthy.

And while they can accurately date pregnancy, giving an edd sometimes creates problems with both mandatory and elective inductions.  Some doctors prefer to give a week or even up to a month of time in which the baby will likely appear/be full term.

So she isn't necessarily crazy or wrong.

Unlike me, Easjer is so open minded!

heather_09_15_07

easjer05:

Oh, and when I was pregnant, I didn't give people the edd - I always said "Beginning of June" because I didn't want to deal with crazy phone calls and stuff.  I figured I'd head it off if I was vague.

This is what I was wondering, knowing how much people get bugged when their EDD approaches.

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easjer05:

Oh, and when I was pregnant, I didn't give people the edd - I always said "Beginning of June" because I didn't want to deal with crazy phone calls and stuff.  I figured I'd head it off if I was vague.

This is smart, but this is not something she would think of. And she never even said "middle of" or "end of"

I'm placing my bet right now that she is going to induce or get a C-section on my wedding anniversary. This would just follow a pattern that started three years ago.

pmarie33

Sounds like she is planning a c-section to me.

Dr.Loretta

I do there was a movement for a while to try and not have defined due dates because of the inaccuracy of dating by LMP and the disappointment pregnant women felt when the due date came and went without giving birth. So they would say "early February" or "late March".

Maybe your SIL and her dr. are just taking this a step further.

*shrugs*

Dr.Loretta

I have an even better theory. Her dr. said 16 weeks, but that would have put your brother(?) OOT at the time, so your SIL is trying to cover her tracks.

Or would that be bad???

Dr.Loretta

easjer, that is freaky that you and I answered almost exactly the same way, totally independently.

Jinx!

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This is my new personal theory - they told her and she didn't listen, so now she doesn't know and if covering her tracks.