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DH and I are Bad Parents

Mandy EllsworthMandy Ellsworth
in Babies: 0 - 3 Months

To give you an idea of life with 2 newborns:

DH and I were in bed when we heard one of the boys cry from thier crib.  Both of us argued back and forth for five minutes on who should get out of bed and comfort the baby.  Then, both babies are up and it is both of us out of bed comforting the boys.

Then, me and DH just mouthed profane insults at each other until the boys fell back asleep.

The baby I was holding fell asleep first, so I mouthed "Hahaha" on my way to bed :)

There is tension this morning between us.  We are so sleep deprived.

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Re: DH and I are Bad Parents

  • JARbabyJARbaby member

    So sad, same story with 2 under 2.

    Though to keep it fair we divide and each have a kid. He always gets up with C and I with J...so it is the luck of the draw and no fight.

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  • LucyPevensieLucyPevensie member
    You sound normal to me!  If I ever posted some of the things DH and I said to each other during our most sleep deprived days people would be horrified.  It makes you crazy (and has great potential to make you really nasty and mean too.)
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    "When it comes to sleeping, whatever your baby does is normal. If one thing has damaged parents enjoyment of their babies, it's rigid expectations about how and when the baby should sleep." ~ James McKenna, Ph.D., Mother Baby Behavioral Sleep Center, University of Notre Dame

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  • Kim-&-ChrisKim-&-Chris
    haha dh and I fight over who's turn it is to take the baby all the time..doesn't make you bad parents, makes you normal :)
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  • EveryNameIWantIsTakenEveryNameIWantIsTaken member

    One is hard enough, I can't imagine two.  DH and I have also had that argument at night but since we only have one, there is no one else to wake up and I can usually win.  Sleep deprivation sucks, I hope it gets better for you soon. 

     

    Just out of curiosity, do they sleep in your room?  I ask because E is in our room and freaks out in his crib.  I figured this is because he is used to having us near him.  But with twins, do they in a way comfort each other just knowing the other twin is near?

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  • purplepugglespurplepuggles
    we yell at each other too. though we don't fight over who gets up - i think we would with two babies!
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  • Mandy EllsworthMandy Ellsworth
    imageEveryNameIWantIsTaken:

    Just out of curiosity, do they sleep in your room?  I ask because E is in our room and freaks out in his crib.  I figured this is because he is used to having us near him.  But with twins, do they in a way comfort each other just knowing the other twin is near?

    We put them in the crib last night.  It was the first time in a week.  They were in our room.  I think they slept about the same.  To be honest, the boys annoy each other more then they do comfort.  It is funny, they will cuddle up while they are sleeping, then when they realize they are touching each other, they scream, cry, and hit each other.

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