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Adoption Orientation...
We have decided to adopt. ?=)) We live in Upland, San Bernardino County and our county is having what they call "TCBD" (taking care of business day) next Saturday. ?From what I gather it's the orientation, and application processs, plus referrals for CPR/First Aid, etc. My question is, does DH have to attend? ?Or, can I just go and fill out the paperwork? ?Also, has anyone been to one of these, we are new to this, we want to request a boy age infant to 3 years, we are a caucasian couple and want the child to be similar looking to us... Any thoughts would be appreciated. ?
TIA! ?=)
Becky?
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Re: Adoption Orientation...
We had a meeting with the director of our agency; I guess you could call it an orientation. We both attended.
I would say that you both want to be there. That way you can both listen to the information and ask questions. I know my dh and I always think of something the other one didn't.
As far as requesting a boy or a girl, we are working with an agency where you cannot make that request unless you already have other children of the other sex. Since we don't, we don't have the option.
Good luck at the meeting - I hope you find out everything you need to know.
I would say you both need to go. There are surely some forms to complete and honestly they want to make sure that you are both on board for this.
If he absolutely cannot attend, try to make an appt with the program director or SW so that you all can get on the same page. You do not want to run this adoption process alone, I promise you..there is alot to keep track of and remember to do and think about as you prep to be viewed by BMs. He needs to be involved.
Congrats on starting the process. I would 100% recommend that your DH attend with you, some places it's actually required. If he really, really does not want to go, i'd call the agency to see what they say, AND/OR I'd discuss if he's really on board, because this should be something that he's still wanting to do.
Where are you adopting from? Like international or domestic? We're adopting from the foster care, and we've been told the more picky we are, the longer we wait. Honestly, in the area that I live in, to say that I want a caucasian baby who are infant to three years because we want them to look like us is unrealstic to ask for.
Good luck to you!
Jennie
It would be to your benefit if you both attend. In fact, we were both required to attend all agency orientations. You will get a ton of good information.
It sounds like you are interested in foster to adopt or international? If you read back at recent posts, there are some definite concerns (cost, being one) about requesting a specific gender in a domestic newborn program.
Have fun!
We were required to attend all meetings/etc. together. It's a good idea - adoption is a family process/decision.
Also, I was surprised that certain moments/things caught me off guard emotionally - it was really great to have DH there to support me and hold my hand.