Am I stealing her thunder?

mrswoodman

Ok I've decided to get some outside perspective on my "situation" (I'm using the term loosly)

 My sister in law is 6 years older than I am and tried to get pregnant for about a year and finally did.  Then I get pregnant while on birth control a few months into our marriage.  When I first told SIL & MIL I already felt like I was taking some of the attention off of her.  Now they want to throw a double shower with MIL friends and family, this feels weird.  Am I overthinking this?  Be honest, I won't cry, I promise

 

 

MLOVER<3

I think you're over thinking.

annibes

I don't understand the problem. Are you worried that the SIL will be upset if you do a double shower or are you going to be upset if you do a double shower??

Natalie27

NO FAIR!!! You need your own shower....

surprisebaby4us2009

Could you ask your SIL?

FutureHardings

I don't think you're stealing her thunder... however I'm not sure I would want to share my shower with my SIL... depends on how close you are, I guess.

returnhomegnome

I say ask your SIL casually over (non-alco) drinks. She may be thrilled at the idea of joint shower, and to have a partner-in-pregnancy.  Never know!

mrswoodman

I'm worried that I am stepping in and taking away from a shower that would have been just for her.  But, now that we are due 4 days apart I'm forcing her to share. 

~*Sarah*~

Natalie27:

NO FAIR!!! You need your own shower....

couldnt have said it better myself?

MLOVER<3

returnhomegnome:

I say ask your SIL casually over (non-alco) drinks. She may be thrilled at the idea of joint shower, and to have a partner-in-pregnancy.  Never know!

Hahaha I'm pretty sure they won't be drinking since both of them are pregnant!

nalah

How close are you to her? If you're close, I think it might be really fun to have a double-shower.  If not, then I could see how she might be upset, but I'm not sure that she has a real reason to be.  When it comes right down to it, its about having a baby, not about getting a lot of attention.  I would try to just be excited for each other and have fun celebrating the begining of new families together! 

 

MLOVER<3

mrswoodman:

I'm worried that I am stepping in and taking away from a shower that would have been just for her.  But, now that we are due 4 days apart I'm forcing her to share. 

Oh good grief, seriously? You're having a baby too, its just as special. I personally don't see it as stepping on her toes. If it really bugs you that much just talk to her about it.

Suparstarz714

I wouldn't want a double shower, but I don't think you get to choose what people do for you. 

thaira

I understand your feelings...I have two friends that have been trying and not succeeding for a year now...and here I come along pregnant, and was on birth control also.  My Dh and I are so excited, but you cant feel bad for your success.  The double shower is interesting...Im not sure I would like that no matter which person I was...the one who tried so long or the one blessed with a surprise...The two of you may need to go together to the person throwing this shower and let her know your feelings...

Pecas13

DH's family threw me a double shower with his cousin's wife.  It was actually quite nice to share the spotlight. (You will have another shower, I am assumming...)and it was really convienient for everyone coming to not have to go to two, and give up two saturdays, etc.  It was very nice and we are so excited to have babies two months apart! I would be grateful for any shower someone is offering to throw for you, regardless if it is a double, or not.

LadyNikon

I wouldnt look at it as stealing anyones thunder.  I would look at it like this.  You have an opportunity to share a moment with your SIL.  She is pregnant and so are you.  Her thunder came the day she found out she will be having a LO.  I would feel honored to share such a momentus occasion.  It is bound to bring you closer.  If you still feel like she should have her own.  Ask her and see how she feels?

jbrasil04

this is a tough one I wouldn't want any one to share my shower. My SIL and I never really got a long so I would say no way. I guess it depends on how the both of you feel about it. Good luck

Genevieved

I would talk  to your SIL about how she feels about the whole thing (shower that is)  If she is ok with it I wouldn't worry about it.  At the sametime if it is with ppl they knew most of their life she most likely will get a little more attention anyway.

emeraudecephiro

They're two babies, right? I think you both deserve your own shower if it is your first babies. You BOTH need a good amount of things.