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people on Oprah who can't talk to their kids @ sex
Home with sick baby= daytime TV!
So these moms on Oprah are PETRIFIED of talking to their daughters about sex and sexuality. The one mom wanted to know what words to use because she can't bring herself to say them. The girl has all these questions. Dr. Laura is there to help out.
Now, I can see abuse survivors having issues with this, but I don't think we're dealing with anything so extreme here.
Dr.Laura said it's an ongoing discussion, not just one big "talk." You think you'll have isses with this?
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Re: people on Oprah who can't talk to their kids @ sex
Not sure if I will. I'm sure I won't as I'm pretty comfortable saying those words but we'll see when the time comes.
The 1 mom is a friend of mine. I'm looking forward to seeing them on TV.
I don't see the huge deal and I think the more open we are with DS, the more open he might be with us. ?
Not sure that my answer would be any different with a daughter, if anything, I'd probably be even MORE comfortable.?
(read it. you know you want to.)
anderson . september 2008
vivian . february 2010
mabel . august 2012
I have a 4 year old and I have already had the talk with him about his body and how NOBODY is allowed to touch him except mom and dad or doctor. He can tell me anything and I will not get mad, etc.
Please keep the lines of communication open with your kids! My mom and I have a pretty good relationship but there are so many things I wish she would been more open about. From sex to something simple like hair removal -- it was like I was on my own and had to figure it all out on my own. Needless to say, there were some terrible beauty treatments gone wrong in my teen years! ha!
I started talking to Charlotte when she was about 3 months old and I have these 'talks' with her every few days. I tell her while were in the bathtub that NO ONE is allowed to touch her and she should never be afraid to tell me anything and if anyone does touch her that they will not come after me or hurt me. I know starting at 3 months was a tad early but I want her to know that its never okay for anyone to touch her. I guess this is geared more torwards molestation but having these conversations with her will easily open the doors for sex when she is older imo.
At first I was thinking you were a lil nutty to start this soon. But ya know, I may take a page out of your book! It will be so much easier to actually have these talks when she is older if she has been hearing the words and stuff since she was tiny. It will be easier as a parent too because it won't feel akward to be talking about it. WONDERFUL idea!
As for my 5 yo, I have talked to him a few times in the past about touching and how nobody is allowed to unless it's mom or dad or the doc. He started kindergarten this past august and I have not talked about it since so I think I need to again. Thanks for the reminder! And Parks, thanks for a good idea
Oh and to finish what I started,
I will NEVER be like my mother when it comes to talking about sex and periods and boobs and all the normal things you should learn from your mother. I learned about most everything from friends. My mother has a knack for making any question seem stupid and pointless, so I never asked about sex or when I would get boobs or what the deal was with sex or anything. My kids will be fully informed and hopefully I will be able to make them feel good about coming to me for questions.
i really don't get parents like that. it's so important to talk to your kids about sex, drugs, and drinking, as it is about not talking to strangers.
i have always been very open about these issues with ds1 (15). yes, it is a bit scary because it opens a door of new questions, but you just answer them the best way you can, making sure you get your point across. not only do these kids know more than we did at their age, but their learning it a much younger age which is why its so important to guide them in the right direction!
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When she's old enough to understand you, are you going to keep bringing it up every few days? I'm not one to judge, but this seems a bit obsessive and over the top. Do you have some sort of personal experience that makes you so obsessed with discussing molestation? (that's rhetorical, no need to answer)?
Very late to respond and not sure if you will see this or not but I don't say the same thing over and over every other day. I just tell her different things every few days. I guess my post came across that I repeat the same thing.
Oh, and no sexual history. I just use our bath time as time to 'talk' to my baby about grown up things that I plan to talk about later. I guess you could say I'm practicing. LOL