I so wish this was MUD...

xcarebearx

I apoligize in advance.  In the last day or two, it seems like a lot of my posts are negative, and like my world is awful.  I am sorry if it seems that way...but when it rains it pours.  So, if you want to turn back now...I totally understand.

 My DH has a job that he doesnt like.  So, he is going to school to get a degree so he can do what he DOES like.  Yea! Good for him.  I knew things were kinda rocky at work, but I thought it was just general stuff.  He has had the mind set that he was only going to be there a little while longer b/c when he graduates in Dec, he will look for a job in his choosen field.  Fast forward to today.  DH was supposed to get off @ 3p.  he calls @ 2p to say the higher ups decided to hold a meeting @ 3 to give out reviews.  That is very unlike them, so I was a bit uneasy about the meeting.  DH finally calls me @ 5 to tell me he is on his way home, and the news is not good.  Turns out, they had all of the associates do reviews about the upper management.  DH got the lowest score, but that is not the worst part.  the employees were able to write in comments about the managers, and it would be annonymous.  I read the reports, so I saw it with my own eyes, other wise I wouldnt have believed it.  He has been making racist comments, bashing certain sexual orientations, making sexual jokes, making jokes about employees personal lives, being 150% lazy and negative, and basicilly they dont want him there anymore.  Combine that with the fact that he was told he needed to bring up the guest satisfaction scores...or else.  He got the report tonight, and the scores are 13% lower than last month.  He is getting fired.  Hell, the racist remarks alone are enough to terminate his ass....I would if I was his boss.  He is a liaiblity to the company.  I had told him in the past that he needed to treat his employees as such, and not as "friends" and make unprofessional comments, but he didnt listen.   I am SOFUCKINGMAD at him.  He deserves EVERYTHING that they do to him, but his kids and I do not deserve it.  Being the worry wart that I am, I am trying to figure out how we are going to keep a roof over our heads and whatnot, and he is telling me to calm down, and worry about it when it happens.  "Um..., Hey jackass, it is happening!"  They were rewritting the schedule when he left today.  So, he will not be able to draw unemployment, I cant put the kids on Medicade for 4 months (I have already checked), we wont be able to afford Cobra, etc etc etc....you guys get the drift.  I told him he needs to start looking for a new job, like yesterday.  Did he listen?  Uhhhh, no.  He said he cant find a job that wouldnt need people skills or good customer service skills.  Wow, I cant think of a job that doesnt require a good attitude and people skills.  I know that he is any name you can think of....and that he is wrong.  I really just need to vent b/c if not.....I would be going to jail.  I am that mad.  How can someone do this to their family, and just not care?  If you have gotten this far, thank you and I am sorry for being so negative.  I promise, I will start posting positive things soon.....even if I have to make them up LOL!

DandR

has he always been like this, or is it something new/recent? 

Sorry for everything you are going through...you are right, you and your kids do not deserve this.  He is being crappy.

Temp374386125003286

Yikes- not good.  I'm sorry that you are having to deal with this. 

~hugs~

kevschickee2

you are right you don't deserve this but he does.  How can he say such things esp at work.  Im sorry things suck so bad for you.  It will get better

minnasmommy

I'm so sorry! you're right---that is just such an awful thing to do to his family. I'm sure you didn't want to be right on this.?

vent here all you want...that's what we're here for!?

Zenya

did you have a different username before? 

anyway IDK what to say to you.  Did you know he was racist?

stillhoping

You have had a lot of drama in your life lately. and yes he has to get another job. Sorry for your troubles

xcarebearx

DandR:

has he always been like this, or is it something new/recent? 

Sorry for everything you are going through...you are right, you and your kids do not deserve this.  He is being crappy.

The racist things are new, or at least I think they are.  He can be a little on the flirtatious side, and we have had many fights about this.  He is getting progressivly lazyer (?).  He doesnt want to work.  He wants to get paid, but doesnt want to work for it.  I know he is lazy at home, but I always chaled that up to him working hard all day at work.  HA! How wrong I was.  If he didnt want to work, he should never have fought for custody of his kids, and he damn sure never should have had a child with me.  They are kids,and they require money to raise, and money come from working.  I really wonder who the heck has beat the hell out of him with a stupid stick.

mommy06

I am so sorry.  Hang in there!  I hope things get better.  HUGS

shopgirl78

Uggg...I'm sorry. ?What a tough spot to be in. ?Hopefully he learns his lesson. ?

MH likes to run his mouth too, namely against the left, liberals, Obama, etc luckily he owns his own business and we live in Texas (generally Republican). ? ?Otherwise, I think he'd have the same fate...

xcarebearx

Zenya:

did you have a different username before? 

anyway IDK what to say to you.  Did you know he was racist?

No, I have always had this username.  I just never came in to the community area before recently.  I did not know he was a racist.  He has made a comment from time to time, but nothing that is alarming or overtly racist. 

babykin18

(((((( huge hugs))))))))

sooosie

(((hugs)))

kelly&paul

I don't know what to say except I am sorry you are having to go through this and vent away. ((((((HUGS))))))

beanzer

Hugs to you and your family. ?You have every right to be pissed off!

MommyofAlissa

Are you thinking about divorce? This might just be me, but I certainly would. He's shown a total lack of responsibility for his family and that is just not acceptable.

This is coming from a wife of a man who also is a little loose in the lips when it comes to his feelings about people, their orientation, beliefs, etc. However, if he EVER went that far, you better bet his ass would be living w/ mommy and daddy so fast his head would spin.

I am sorry you are dealing w/ this. Good luck w/ whatever you decide to do!

lizlemon77

((Hugs))  I wish I had some words of wisdom for you, but the whole thing really sucks.  You can vent on here all your want.

xcarebearx

MommyofAlissa:

Are you thinking about divorce? This might just be me, but I certainly would. He's shown a total lack of responsibility for his family and that is just not acceptable.

This is coming from a wife of a man who also is a little loose in the lips when it comes to his feelings about people, their orientation, beliefs, etc. However, if he EVER went that far, you better bet his ass would be living w/ mommy and daddy so fast his head would spin.

I am sorry you are dealing w/ this. Good luck w/ whatever you decide to do!

I am not to the point of divorce....yet.  There are other things going on IRL that I havent posted here, and they also have an impact on what I will end up doing.  Divorce is not a cut and dry case for me...not that it is for anybody, but there are some interesting circumstances with our blended family that have to be taken into consideration.  But, I am afraid of going to jail....I am ready to beat him up one wall and down another!  thanks for your (and everyone else too) support!

femmegem

Wow. That sucks! Your DH sounds like a real arsehole, I'm sorry to say.

I hope you can figure out how to get through this without beating him senseless. (((hugs)))

Zenya

xcarebearx:

Zenya:

did you have a different username before? 

anyway IDK what to say to you.  Did you know he was racist?

No, I have always had this username.  I just never came in to the community area before recently.  I did not know he was a racist.  He has made a comment from time to time, but nothing that is alarming or overtly racist. 

your writing style is v. familiar.

MommyofAlissa

If you do have to beat on him, we'll say you were here all night, posting away!

niecy

I would be livid. ((((hugs))))