I need advice/ opinions

princesmeli

I don't post much on here but I'm really torn about this decision. 

My DH got a promotion/transfer that we decided we're going to accept.  This means we will be moving from Philadelphia to Miami area.  This is something that we have been wanting for a long time.  My side of the family is down there. 

The question is:  Do I move down there ASAP and stay with my mom while my husband stays here a couple more weeks and does the move himself OR  do I stay here and have been go down there and risk that he won't be able to make it back in time for the birth...and then having to move with a newborn.?

I think that if I move first, though stressful (finding new doctor etc) will be the best thing.  I just don't want to risk being "alone" when I have this baby if she decides to come early. 

PS.  I did talk to my doctor about this and she recommended that I get down to florida by the end of the month and have the baby down there.

WWYD?

hula_lula

If it were me, I would stay with my DH.

But you have to do what feels right for you. If you feel more comfortable going down without him, finding a doctor right away, etc, then do that.

librarianlisa

If staying in Philly meant I might be alone at the birth, I would move to Miami now and at least have my mom with me. And then hopefully DH will get down there in time, too, and it won't be an issue.

D-lightful

print out a list of flights and put the money away incase you do go into labor, DH can get there ASAP. You should go and relax and he should tie up the loose ends and come down ASAP.

Hopefully you will have signs of labor a few days in advance, so he will know when the time is near.

Temp159135562506975

i would go earlier than later - not just so you can find a new doc and hospital, but also so you will be done with moving down before you are truly huge and uncomfortable.

congrats to your DH! good luck with the move!

MidwestTexan

I would stay with DH. We are actually moving 6-8 weeks after our son is born from Kansas to South Dakota.

princesmeli

Just to clarify...

I would probably go down to Florida end of this month and he would soon follow about a week later....He would have to deal with the movers etc and driving down there instead of flying (I think the drive would be too hard for me) 

I think I'm leaning towards flying down there alone and being with my mom and finding a doctor/hospital etc.  As much I hate to leave him to deal with the move alone.

jolis_petits_bijoux

If I were in your shoes, I'd stay with DH and move with him.  He is the most important one (other than you, of course) in the childbirth process, and I wouldn't think getting down there now would be worth the risk that should you go into labor, you'd have to deliver without him there.  Not to mention... you'd have a new OB and no DH there.  Not good. 

erino&chrish

My DH and I are attached at the hip, so I'd have to stay with him.  It depends on how your relationship is.

chels0120

DH and I are in about the same boat!! I decided It was important to me to be with DH

Debbie_0708

From what it sounds like, you'd be without your DH for 2 weeks? And even if you wait, you'll be in FL by the time you have the baby?

Making the drive would be very difficult on you in a few weeks, and I think getting set up with a doctor this late in your pregnancy can be tough and may require lots of appointments. I'd probably listen to your doctor.

nuttybunch

I would be wherever it is more likely for DH to be around for the birth. If that means staying with your mom and having HER help you for the rest of your pregnancy, do that. If it means staying in PA with DH and potentially having to find a new dr last minute, do that.

Of course, do what's best for baby and whatever makes you more comfortable. But I would NOT want DH to miss the birth of his child. I would forego my own comfort to make sure he was there.