DH being out of town vent - long

Kerrin

I just have to get this off my chest.  I'm so so tired that DH always travels for work.  Don't get me wrong, i'm super grateful that he has a job in these times, but it's so hard to be a single mom.  I totally lost my cool last night with Carter and Ava and screamed at them for not listening and for Carter being super defiant and back-talking, just b/c i was so tired of doing everything all the time.

I work full time, have a ridiculous commute, run our house, make sure our bills are paid, food in the pantry, make sure everything gets fixed, drs. appts., dentist appts., vet appts for 5 animals, and take care of two young kids, making sure they have everything they need.  It's taking it's toll. 

I know DH doesn't travel as much as some others, but when i thought about it last night, he's missed nearly 1 year of Carter's life -and almost half of Ava's.  I just need a break. 

He went to the lake at 7:30 am Sunday morning to prepare the ski site for the season.  Left to go out of town after that.  C & A never saw him on Sunday.  He left me a massive pile of laundry to fold, a dishwasher to empty and a house full of toys to pick up.  I took the kids to see grandma, since i knew he's be gone all day, and that's what I came home to.

To top it all off, the dog crawled under my bed this morning at 6am and threw up.  I know she couldn't help being sick, but I was so mad.  More so that it was 5am and DH was out of town and i had to get out of bed, move the mattress and box springs off the bed and clean it up, and then get everything back on again.

I know i'm being whiney.  But i feel better just getting this out.  I don't want to take my frustrations out on my kids or dog when i get home today.  if you even got this far, thanks for reading. 

missmlp

Please vent away Kerrin!  We all know how you feel which is why many of us are doing the fireproof/dare challenge.  What you described is totally how I feel minus the dog and a DH that doesn't travel. 

DzsGirl

Sorry things are so rough right now...I have to give kudos to you working Mom's, I really can't imagine how y'all do the house the kids and work! Sounds like when your DH gets home you need a day of pampering (while he's home cleaning and taking care of the kids).

care99

I know exactly how you feel and I'm only dealing with one baby and one pet.  I have no idea how I'm going to handle two when he's gone.  Even if you have to hire a sitter, you need some time to yourself.  I hope your days gets better.

myrall

Gah, I hope your day gets better. I'd be beside myself if I had to go that long w/o DH. You're doing an amazing job and I hope you get some respite soon!

amanda_holbird@hotmail.com

(((((Big Hugs)))))  We are here from you and it's also nice to know that there's a few of us on the board that know what you are going through. 

Dh is gone for most of the month and I'm alone with the boys.  Yesterday evening was a bad day for me.  When I picked up the boys from daycare, Jack's cheeks were very rosy and I could tell he was ill.  His temp was over 102.  Ethan was acting like a nut and refused to eat dinner.  All he wanted to do was take his toys and hit them on the furniture...or me...or Jack.  He was such a pain.  I yelled at him a few times and felt terrible for it.

I was up on and off during the night taking care of Jack.  This morning I took him to the doctor and he has a throat infection and he's on amoxil.  The only bright side to this week is that my mom is on spring break and she was able to drive down and watch Jack for me today.  After this week is over, I'll be s-o-l and will have no one to watch the boys.  It's very frustrating.  I try not to show anger towards dh, but sometimes I can't help it.  He's gone so much and after he's done for the day he gets to go out to eat, or for a swim in the hotel pool, or to bed early, while I'm home cleaning the house and taking care of the boys.  Anyway, sorry for hijacking your post, but I completely feel for you.

AugustaBride04

I really admire all of you mom's that have traveling DH's.  My DH travels every now and then for work, but it's never more than 1 - 2 days tops. After that short of a period, I am completely wiped. I can't imagine handling it with multiple kids for longer periods.  I know it must be so hard to keep it together, but all of you do a great job and are great mommies!!  Hang in there and try to find some time for yourself to relax - I know easier said than done.  GL!

jodylynn

Sorry kerrin.  I feel your pain so much.  My DH works nights and is only home 3 nights of the week - so I'm a single mom pretty much all the time now too.  It is hard but we are the tougher sex and we can handle it!!  Sounds like you need to put the kids to bed and have a glass of wine - sorry i dont live closer or I would join you! Maybe a girls night is in order after your DH gets back in town!!

donna&ed

Vent away! I don't know how you do it but u r one tough cookie!

MrsL1022

I totally hear you on the traveling and feeling like a single mom! Vent away, I am sorry things are stressing you out right now. I hope you can get a break really soon. I think you need a spa day! I'd be happy to chapperone lol.