How do you deal with the stares???

Jackie K

MH and I went out today with all three kids..first to BRU then figured we could just go walk around at an outdoor mall...well, omg, the STARES! At BRU we had people actually talk to us, which wasn't bad since we weren't in a rush (and none of the kids were fussing..lol). But at the mall, it was terrible! EVERYONE was staring at us! I had my daughter in her stroller and the boys were in the DSNG (mh pushing it)..I can only image having a triple stroller, you ladies must get even more looks.

I honestly didn't think it would bother me..but it does! It makes me so uncomfortable! I guess it's something I'll have to get use to, huh? Why don't people with 3 kids get looked at? Just because they're twins it's a big deal? 

How do you deal with it? I never want to go out again..lol

Thanks for letting me vent..I think this is the only place where people actually understand!  

lutzcowgirlie

You just get so used to it that you hardly notice. I go out with all three by myself all the time during the week and I hardly see it at all. We go out with my DH on the weekends and he is always surprised by all the attention.

 

Most people mean well. Twins are still unique, despite the seeming boom. Oh, and once they get a bit older it slows down some. You've got the attraction of "Oh, babies!" coupled with "Oh wow, two?" Once you lose the baby part, it won't be such a sideshow.

EverAfterinMi

oh.. we're a traveling freak show for sure! I just smile and go on my way!

SNL0605

it depends on my mood...most of the time I am not bothered and I just think to myself...they dont have very good manners

when I am in a mood though I usually make a snotty comment- "Do you have a question you would like to ask me?" "OMG! I have three kids! Alert the media" or my personal favorite and rather juvenile ""careful or your eyes will fall out"

PianoPlayingSarah

We don't even look at people anymore.  No eye contact.

The best was last week at Target when some older woman said to her adult daughter, "Well, look at that." 

pea-kay

i don't mind, but if i'm in a hurry, i'm all about the "no eye contact." it works pretty well. i just let everything wash over me.

the good thing is, i don't have to worry about looking decent when i go anywhere with the boys. no one's looking at me!

KimberlyAGD

Honestly, I am now just used to it.  One of the moms in my multiples club told me to enjoy the attention now because it a few years no one will pay attention to the kids anymore--they will just think they are triplets or 3 really close together, but not the "awwww" factor of babies.  I took that to heart and decided to enjoy the comments and stares for now.

ES-6-26

Well, I'm pretty straighforward... so if people decide to comment on "how hard it must be" I start laying it on thick and telling them "yeah, imagine my shock when a 100 year old maple fell on our only car when I was 36 weeks pregnant with them, then I delivered 8lb twins, and two weeks later my husband and I lost our jobs and now we are about to go into forebearance on our house..."  usually they just gasp and move on!!

bunny731

Smile and when a nice compliment hits my direction say thank you.

I had a close friend lose her 2 at 19w (I was 14w) and it is a constant reminder I would rather accept every comment that comes in my direction graciously than be without them-surrounded by silence. I know it sounds morbid-it is the truth- her experience presented a lifetime of appreciation for what I have.