Tell me if you would get pissed?

GBucksHollysMOM

My BF's parents are both identical twins. So naturally they were praying we were going to have twins. Thats fine whatever. So I go for the ultrasound on Friday and called his Mom to tell her I am emailing the pics. She say well how many did they see? I said one. How many hear beats did you hear, I say one. At this point I am like cant you just be happy theres one why are you asking me so many questions (Didnt really say it but thats what I was thinking).

So i get home from work and show BF the pics. He then begins to tell me that there could be another baby7 hiding behind the one we saw. I was like WTF are you talking about. He said his Mom called and said that sometime they dont see both babies the first time. I think it is soooooo strange that she is even going as far as to talk like this. What do you guys think? I mean the chances of me having twins is very rare.

k.linn

That is a little strange. I guess I can understand the whole "wouldn't it be neat" aspect of it--but honestly, this is taking it a little far!

bostonfingerlakes07

It's annoying.

If your parents/in-laws are anything like mine...the annoying stuff will continue far past when the baby is born.

Have your BF call his Mom and say flat out "we're happy we're only having one...2 is a lot of work...back off!".  

 

AMYfromKY

I'd tell them to STFU.  1 baby is a miracle.  Some people never even get that.  Congrats on your baby!

MissyC979

I think that's a little weird. Just be happy for one healthy baby!

robbie3982

There could be another baby hiding, but you're no more likely to have ID twins than anyone else.  Your BF has no influence on it.  ID twins are random.  Fraternal twins could be passed down from your side though.

FLVintageBride

They actually have only proven that there is a genetic link in having fraternal twins and it comes on the mother's side of the family, not the father's.  It's entirely possible that both of his parents being identical twins will not increase your chances of having twins at all.  Tell them you are thankful for one healthy baby- thank you very much!

rcollier_17

Yeah, I would be so annoyed if I was in your situation! Seriously, twins are hard work (lived with my sister and her husband for a year to help out with their twins)! I don't know why anyone would wish them on anyone else. If you personally want them than great, but don't wish them on people! Crimanilly!

hutchjess

My in laws did this to me too.  In particular b/c I AM a twin, and I was doing infertility so of course the chances are higher.  But there is only one, and I am SOOO happy about that.  I didn't like being a twin growing up (total lack of your own identity) and I definitely don't want to have to take care of two babies at once.  So annoying!  I just kept emphasizing how I only wanted one and I'm really happy.

MadameFancyPants

It's probably a case of curiousity.  Maybe she is just more comfortable talking to her son, than she is talking to you. 

The way I see it she is curious if you are having two.  But she wants to make sure all bases are covered.  Meaning one isn't hiding or thier hearts aren't beating at the same time sounding like one.  

I wouldn't get too aggrivated. 

GBucksHollysMOM

Ok so I am not just being sensitive it is annoying. Good I am glad mostly everyone agrees w/ me.

lfen0526

yup this would annoy me too, but I think it's pretty safe to say that the annoying comments won't go away for a LONG time, whether they are about twins or what you feed your baby!!

MsAlyss

I'd be annoyed too.  And I'd be sure to bring up the whole identical/fraternal scientific stuff next time I talked to her.  Just to piss her off... but that's just me, and I'm bitter, and don't like my MIL LOL

ameya

I agree, just have your BF explain to her that identical twins are not hereditary, and twins run on the female side since (non-identical) twins require YOU to release more eggs, and you are very happy there is only one so it's time to drop the subject.

Saran

I know how you feel. My DH had twins (in vitro) with his first wife, then we had twins (runs in my family with 5 sets) and I'm pg again so everyone is assuming there are two and planning for two. I dont think I could handle a third set and the thought of it scares me even though it's all I know. I just want to tell everyone (including my DH) to shut up about it and leave me alone.

I agree with PP, give her the blurb about it having to run on your mothers side with fraternal twins and she'll shut up.

bandwife

That is too much. They need to calm down.

 

ju.vanderw

Yep, I would get pissed.  And as other ppl have said, identical twins are completely random.  You can't control it, it's NOT genetic.  I would say "tell that to your in-laws and they may stop bugging you", but my mother in law believes that any kind of twins are genetic and I've told her MULTIPLE times that it's not, and she just doesn't get it.  This whole "skipping generation" thing is just ridiculous.  Anyway.  Sorry you have to go through that!  (DH's grandparents both have twins in their families so we get some pressure too.)