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Bills coming in for D&C

Every time I get one in the mail it makes me cry. On top of the painful reminder, the anesthesia bill was itemized as an abortion procedure. It really broke my heart. It's such a little thing, but they are different to me... I lost my baby. 

 Thank all you ladies for sharing your stories. They help me not feel so alone. 

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Re: Bills coming in for D&C

  • I'm so sorry... if only we could just have someone else open our mail for us.... arg.
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  • I am so sorry.  It doesnt help, but a they refer to all losses as abortions in the medical bill.  so it will be listed on a few more bills, Im so sorry ((BIG HUGS))
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  • Hugs!  That is awful!
  • I got yet another one just last week -- for my D&C in OCTOBER.  I called the insurance company IRATE -- not because I wanted to contest the bill, but I was like, "seriously, is there not a statute of limitations on when a doctor can go, 'oh yeah, I need to bill this woman -- I almost forgot!'"

    My current pregnancy was an "oops" after I lost the twins, and I think with it, I had to just push back all I was feeling and trying to process about my second loss.

    When these bills come in, it just reopens a wound that I don't have time or energy to let heal right now.

    I SO can relate to your frustration.

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  • I'm sorry.  Between that and the freakin' formula I get in the mail....it blows.
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  • i had the same problem. i haven't gotten the bills yet but i had to fill out this paperwork saying that i was getting a "surgery missed abortion" i started silently crying then when my mom showed up to the hospital and i couldn't stop crying about it. i did not have an abortion. i wanted my baby. how insensitive of them. so when they were preping me for surgery my mom talked to the hospitals patient specialist and she said nobody had ever pointed that out before (don't believe that for a second) and she had had a miscarriage of her own. she agreed that that was completely insensitive and said that they would talk to the hospital admin. to get the wording changed for future patients. apparently she was very sorry and sweet about the whole thing. they brought the chaplin to my room to make sure that i knew that what i was doing was for my health and it was not my fault in the eyes of god. overall, it's a terrible thing and it made me feel even worse about getting anything done. i already felt like i was giving up on my baby and to see that someone else thought it would be equal to an abortion was heart breaking.
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