WEEEE, my VERY OWN crib drama!

janice74

BIL offered us their crib IF their daughter is out of it by the time we need it. ?(she just turned 2). ?I really don't know anything about the crib, because DH hasn't asked and we would have to drive 5 hours up to San Fran to get it (if we can have it). ?Still, it is a very nice offer.

Saturday my parents called and said they wanted to buy us most of our furniture for the nursery. ?We got excited and went to a kids furniture store to look. ?We saw a set we liked (convertible crib, dresser/changing table, glider/ottoman) and decided to go for it, since it was such a good deal and the sales tax in CA is going up on April 1st. ?We are going to have it delivered in June.

When we got home I posted to Facebook that we purchased our nursery furniture. ?The next day DH talks to his mom and she is upset because BIL and SIL are wondering why their stuff isn't good enough and why we don't want it. ?Are you serious??? ? The problem is everything is a competition with them. ?

DH called and emailed his brother and has yet to hear back. ?I really doubt he ever will. ?ARGH! ??

Sequoyah Shoars

oh they need to grow the eff up. why the hell would you want used over new anyways?!?!

easyBreezie

My family is the same way and I hate it! My mom got gotta mad when I said I didn't want to use my actual crib that she used for me. I was like 'yeah, I bet that's real safe these days.' Especially since it was 25 years ago and they were broke when they had me so it was probably a piece to begin w/. I would just ignore them and they'll get over it.

janice74

jellibelli:

oh they need to grow the eff up. why the hell would you want used over new anyways?!?!

Well yeah, ?We got a matching set and it was a sure thing. ?It isn't like they offered to buy us a crib and then we went and let someone else buy it. ?

I am staying out of it. ?It will always be something.?

AMYfromKY

Wow.  I would just tell them you appreciated the offer, but you didn't want them to feel like they had to push their daughter out of the crib early if she wasn't ready.  That way it will look like you were thinking about their little one (even if you weren't).  I don't see how someone could fight about that.

I agree they need to grow up though! 

kkenner

Wait..don't they have a 2 year old (isn't she the baby...not the parents??) Geez..tell them to grow up!!

amber_tynan

jellibelli:

oh they need to grow the eff up. why the hell would you want used over new anyways?!?!

Ditto!  Why would you want a 2 year old crib when you can have a brand new one?  

I LUBBINS YOU!

That is ridiculous of them....can we say DRAMAH!  If someone offered to buy me all my nursery furniture I would totally jump on it!  It was not a personal insult to them, but clearly they just want to make a mountain out of a molehill. 

 

janice74

Hopefully DH's email will get through to them. ?He explained everything. ?I am interested to hear what they say back (if anything). ?I am not exactly sure how old their crib is. ?They also have a 4 and a 6 year old. ?

It has been driving me crazy anyways, because I wanted to plan the nursery, but I had no idea what color the crib was or what it looked like. ?I also have no idea why they need to drag MIL into it. ?We were hoping DH's parents would offer to go halfsies once they heard my parents were buying furniture, but they are too worked up now.?

mamaiorory

I feel your pain. My SIL offered her used crib & changing table (which went through my two nephews and was used when she bought it for $600 six years ago!) Even though it's the ugliest effing set I've ever seen in my life (the dresser is oak with a black granite top) I was thankful and said sure we'd love to have it. She then e-mailed me back to ask if I thought $400 was a good price to pay for the set!?!? I said that we'd talked about it and since the set I wanted brand new was $400 and a convert crib we decided to go for it. My MIL was super mad--not at us--at her daughter for trying to charge us for her used furniture!

 I'd tell DH to tell them that since it wasn't a sure thing and your parents offered to buy a brand new set you decided to make it easier on everyone and take the whole set. Good luck!

janice74

soon2bemidwestmommy:

I feel your pain. My SIL offered her used crib & changing table (which went through my two nephews and was used when she bought it for $600 six years ago!) Even though it's the ugliest effing set I've ever seen in my life (the dresser is oak with a black granite top) I was thankful and said sure we'd love to have it. She then e-mailed me back to ask if I thought $400 was a good price to pay for the set!?!?

Wow, that is just a new height of tackiness. ?I would have been laughing at her email. I don't understand some people.?