Need help with a time-splitting for DD

Rebekah1021

I am going to NYC on the 8th to tag along with DH on a business trip. My mom and dad are going to watch DD on Wed and Thurs. (8th and 9th). My mom can't watch DD on the 10th because she has work to do for church and she needs to be there since it's Good Friday.

MIL is going to take a vacation day to watch her on the 10th. She mentioned that she would love to have FIL pick DD up on his way home from work on Thursday. I am a little unsure of this. I am mostly concerend that DD will not adapt well from being shuffled from one house to another. Should I just let FIL pick her up early and that way my parents can catch a breather and keep things fair about having the same time with DD or should I just stick to what I originally had thought was to have my mom drop off DD to my MIL on Friday morning?

I keep going back and forth on this. This is the first time I will not be around for more than 24 hours and DD is a huge mama's girl. part of me thinks, she might be more comfortable with my mom, but I know that DD is close to MIL and she is good with her.

stillhoping

I am sure she will do fine, often we worry about it much more than they do and they do so much better than we ever imagined.

butterbeansmama

I would go with whatever is more convenient for everyone. If it isn't that big of a deal to have your mom drop her off Friday morning, then stay with that plan. If it is a big deal for your MIL to take her Thursday night, then go ahead and allow them to do so. If dd doesn't cope with it well, they will be the ones that will have to deal with it. Although, I'm sure she will be just fine.

For the longest time, I wanted my parents to watch Preston and our house and stay the night here (when we were out of town). One time, it just couldn't be done that way, and he stayed over there. He was perfectly fine over there. I was worried for nothing.

They seem to be alot more "flexible" than what we give them credit for.

Have a great time!