I don't see the big deal

merjmm

DH and I have decided to not find out the sex of the baby.  With this being said we started looking at options for the nursery.  I have discovered that I am not a big fan of a lot of the general neutral bedding.  DH and I were discussing an alternative plan.  We are going to get all of the furniture and have it ready in the nursery.  We are then going to pick out bedding set for a boy and another one for a girl and once the baby is here our moms have decided they want to get it for us. 

Well to make a long story short, a CW of mine made me feel like this was the absolute stupidest idea she had ever heard of.  She said that I was going to regret not being ?prepared? for the baby when the baby comes home.  I tried to explain to her that we were going to have the baby in a bassinet for a little bit anyway and we weren?t going to be doing anything elaborate in the nursery because we will be loving when the baby is about 9months to a year old but I guess that didn?t matter to her. 

Am I crazy for thinking this could work?  DH and I thought it was a good idea. 

 

thatgirlang

Of course it will work. Very few babies sleep in their cribs on their first night home... or even first week, month, etc. Tell your CW to get a clue.

It's a great idea. I wondered what people do when you don't really like gender neutral stuff!

MrsBeckO

No, you're not crazy at all! Babies do not need elaborate nurseries at all, really.. but certainly not the day they come home from the hospital!

If that is what you and your DH want to do, go for it. Don't listen to anyone else's opinion on the matter. Except your nesties', of course.

localbs05

You are not crazy! It is one of the best surprises you will ever experience, that will by far out weigh any "preparation"

Starlette1983

I think that is a great idea!  Like you said, you won't be using the nursery right away anyway, so no worries!  Even if you were using the nursery right away you could get the crib all set up and put a plain crib sheet in there and the baby would be just fine until you got the rest of your stuff!

manda_mullins

punch her in the taint.

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your baby is not going to come home demanding a sex-specific bedding set. ?

mrsbhk22

One of our closest friends did this and it worked great for them.  Their parents even had the bedding washed and put together when they came home from the hospital.  They are doing it again with #2!

K-I-S-S-I-N-G

You will be a-ok! Seriously marketing makes you feel that if your baby doesn't have every contraption out there that you will fail at parenting. The real essentials needed for a newborn are pretty minimal. Your baby probably won't even sleep in the crib right away!

Abc123

You'll be fine.  Your CW is stupid for thinking your idea is stupid!

jmubride2

I think you're fine!  If you really start to worry about it you can buy just a basic white inexpensive crib sheet.  It isn't like you won't use it as a back-up and the baby doesn't really need a comforter or crib skirt. 

AMYfromKY

It will work.  If you want to be prepared (and you can trust your mom) you could always have the Dr put what the sex is in a sealed envelope and give it to your mom.  She could then buy the bedding, wash it, and then set it up once you leave for the hospital.  That way it's ready if you decide to use the crib right away for naps or other things.

monlyn9

If you are crazy then I am too. We are doing the exact same thing for the exact reasons you are. We already found the boys and girls bedding that we like and both have brown/tan accents so we are going to pain the walls a neutral tan so the nursery will be all ready to go except for sheets and bumper in place. It's not like that takes more than 10 minutes to do!

LoveEeyore

Yikes.  DOn't tell her, then, that I'm not getting ANY bedding (gasp!).  She sounds very silly.  The car seat and diapers are the only things you'll be hardpressed for right away.  You won't regret a thing!

sare_bear

Your coworker is stupid!  It'll be a long time before the baby uses the crib. 

merjmm

Thanks everyone!  I honestly didn't think I was crazy for thinking it could work but my CW has 2 kids (one is only 4 months old) so the idea that a mom thought I wasn't going to be prepared started making me worry. 

**Gretchen**

The "not planning" argument always bugs the crap out of me. I fail to see how buying things in blue/pink makes one more prepared.

Temp159135562506975

your CW is a douche.

my son didn't spend much time in the nursery for the first month or so - he slept in his bassinet in our room until he was 4 months old. He did nap in his crib sometimes during that time- but if we didnt' even have a crib- it wouldn't have mattered.

Britt2626

manda_mullins:

punch her in the taint.

 

 

your baby is not going to come home demanding a sex-specific bedding set.  

I just wanted to let you know that this made me laugh so hard I almost peed my pants. Thanks!! I need a laugh!

war_eagle

That is what we are doing. ?Your CW is an idiot. ?The baby doesn't care if the there isn't a matching set on the crib.

~*Sarah*~

sounds good to me DH and i were thinking of doing something similar since really you cant use the bedding until later and us having a summer baby no need for a quilt yet. so we thought either gender neutral or just get yellow white or green sheets and have that ready and then pick the theme once baby arrives