SAHD?

Wifey2007

 

Sorry for the serious post here!  I just need some advice. 

I'm a little stressed out these days because my husband hasn't been given a full 40 hours each week and it's causing me stress with the budget.  Anyway, I'm the breadwinner and right now, feel like the sole provider. 

I was thinking that maybe when the baby gets here, he should stay at home during the day and work a night job.  He would only need to make a certain amount of cash because if we were to put her in daycare, it would be around $900 a month.  My only concern is that our relationship would suffer.  I get home at 5:30, he hands the baby over to me, puts on his work clothes and heads out the door. We wouldn't ever be together as a family except on the weekends (if he got the weekends off).  Is anyone in this situation?  Is it working out or not?

cassiedawn

my DH works 4-12 every day. He is off on the weekends. Im a retail manager, so I work a different shift every day. Its rough but I think, when you know that its for your family you dont think of it that way. There have been days that I havent seen DH but when he gets into bed. We make due..

ashleyvc1

PM me, DH was/is kinda a SAHD for the last 2 years.......but I have to go now, I'll answer you tonight or tomorrow.....

 

I have lots and lots of info/feelings/etc. about it I can share.

jamie.renee

In 2005 my husband stayed home with my 2 girls.  I was making more money and we were spending so much on daycare so it was teh best option.  He was getting ready to leave for the Army within about 4 months so we also thought it would be good to spend as much time as he could with the kids since we knew he would be away for a while.  At first he did work part time at nights...it did not work for us.  We knew we were fine financially so we just made due until he left for basic training.  And now after having him away so much (15 month deployment, home a year, now on a 12 month deployment...on top of horrible work hours) I would never be able to choose to work opposite schedules unless we HAD to.  For us, it just doesn't work but only you know what would be best for your family.

Cat-in-Boston

My parents did this - but it was a mutual decision that they made when my mom returned to work back in the 80's.... your marriage will suffer unless this is something that your DH wants as well as otherwise you're forcing him into a situation which he doesn't agree with and divorce is more expensive than day care....