Uggh IL's driving me batty...but it's not their fault

CubsGirlNYC

I love my SIL but seriously she an BIL are driving me nuts and the worst part is, she's not doing anything wrong, I'm just hormonal.

They live across the country from us and are planning on coming with their kids when the baby is born. Initally it was going to be a few weeks after my due date, they'd be in town for a week, but not staying with us. Great, so happy they are going to come.

Now BIL things he can turn this into a work trip, fine I get it they can all come but his firm will pay his flight and the hotel while he's here if he does business.

This means they are coming 2 days before my due date and staying for 3-4 days after.

SIL called me to ask me "what my plan was if the baby wasn't born on her due date?"  ----Uhhhh wait until she is born?! I don't know! She was like, "oh you're not going to ask your doc to induce?" No...I really wasn't planning on it, unless my doc thinks it a good idea. Then she said "well don't worry if we have to we'll just extend our trip"

They're being so nice and supportive - they want to be here with us. What is wrong with me, becuase they're really annoying me and they're not doing anything wrong.

 

MrsNWalker

Well I feel the same way my MIL wants to come in town when my son arrives and stay for a week or s; and she is okay to deal with for a little while but after a day or two I'm going to want my house to my self ad just be alone to enjoy my baby boy; I know that sounds horrible. So now thier's nothing wrong with the way you feel you have the right to feel this way; maybe a trip up right after the baby arrives is too soon maybe they shoudl wait a week or so after so you can settle in at home with your new baby.

kklickka

Nice that they want to be there to meet your LO though!  Although I would be annoyed, too, I think - it's kind of like those people who say "You can't go into labor until after this happens" or "Can you make sure you have the baby before this date?"  Yeah, I'll get right on that.

 

I'm worried about something similar - my parents are coming up on my due date and my ILs and cousins are coming up a week later (June 6, when their kids get out of school).  They'll all be here for at least a week.  I'm a little worried that I'll be late and that we'll all be sitting around the house staring at each other with nothing to do until I go into labor.  Ugh...11 people (including 3 kids under 7)...what will I do with them all?

dimake

Eh, I'd be annoyed too if other people expected me to plan childbirth around their plans.