Okay you know what

Garnetbaby09

it really bugs me when you girls over here can flame a new mom who is honestly concerned about her baby's eating habits!  Holy heifer!  My pedi told me the exact same thing!  Do what you can do avoid the snacking.  NO WHERE in her post did she say she was withholding food from her poor defenseless 1wk old baby!  Get a gripe!   Think back to 6+ months ago.  I am sure you got scared over the smallest things and you may consider yourselves "pros" now.  Yea, us over on 0-6 may not be mom's as long as you but we care about our babies just as much.  And if she is concerned about her babe's eating habits, SO FUUCKING BE IT.   She's not starving her baby.  She's asking how to establish a schedule.  A routine that her pedi suggested she start...  Its not like she's taking it upon herself to withhold food.

Brookie-Cookie

the new law of call outs requires a link to the offending issue

Garnetbaby09

Read down a few posts re: 0-6

BabyMenzel

i looked and im not sure which post you're talking about....

please post link in this post

mrs_breakfast

"I feel awful not feeding him, but I really want to avoid snacking. This evening I was able to hold him off for over an hour of him rooting around and he was frustrated, but not screaming "

Sounds like witholding to me.

RoRed5

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/13092472/ShowThread.aspx#13092472

Here it is. 

redstars93

mrs_breakfast:

"I feel awful not feeding him, but I really want to avoid snacking. This evening I was able to hold him off for over an hour of him rooting around and he was frustrated, but not screaming "

Fordlor

This is what her OP said:

"He gets really agitated and sucks on everything he can from his sleeves to my knuckles to the boppy if he can, so I know he's hungry.  I feel awful not feeding him, but I really want to avoid snacking.  

This evening I was able to hold him off for over an hour of him rooting around and he was frustrated, but not screaming."

That sounds like withholding food to me.  She made him wait over an hour to eat.  The baby is nine days old.  She just needs to feed her baby.  She can worry about the schedule later. 

redstars93

Ok, so I just read the OP (via link) and it looks like the 0-6ers were calling her out on it too. Why did you feel the need to call out 6-12ers?

 

stephm0188

Holy crap. They have stomachs the size of a marble at 1 week. They're not snacking.

JAC1027

So OP, you're defending someone who is withholding food from a 9 day old who is obviously hungry, giving hunger cues, and you're calling out people who are advising nourishment?  This day is whack!

NerdBride_D&D

Okay, you know what. I am far from a "pro" now but I have as much common sense now as I did when DS was a newborn. The tiniest things didn't scare me, I didn't withhold food from my baby, I think you're dumb as rocks for defending withholding food from a baby who is a week old. How the hell does that make sense to anyone? "I have a tiny person who is growing at a phenomenal rate, but I don't want to give this little person any fuel with which to do so... " WTH LADY? And then you with your "Can't we all just be friends? We're new moms and don't know what's what yet and blah blah wah wah." Jesus Christ.

COMMON SENSE. You need it. She needs it. Any new mom, old mom, ancient mom, etc needs it if they think that shiit makes an ounce of sense. Or even google! IF YOU DO NOT HAVE ENOUGH COMMON SENSE TO KNOW HOW TO FEED YOUR CHILD, AND/OR DEFEND PEOPLE WHO ALSO LACK THIS COMMON SENSE USE A DAMN SEARCH ENGINE. FFS

Oh and fwiw there were people from the 0-6 board saying this shiit makes no damn sense and to feed the kid too. But I guess since you can't use the "Can't we all just be friends? We're new moms and don't know what's what yet and blah blah wah wah" shiit on them it doesn't count eh? FFS AGAIN

RoRed5

Oh, and I guess I should have replied, too, not just posted the link.  She says she's witholding by making him wait for an hour while she knows he's hungry. 

Honestly, I didn't post in the OP b/c any point I wanted to make was made already, but in a case like this it's not about flaming.  It's about trying to keep a baby from going hungry.

Sam78

redstars93:

Ok, so I just read the OP (via link) and it looks like the 0-6ers were calling her out on it too. Why did you feel the need to call out 6-12ers?

 

There's something in the water on 0-6, there have been more call outs today than in a major league baseball game and its getting crazy over there!

*KatieH*

Could someone pass the crack that everyone is smoking my way??

She was withholding food from the baby!?Next week she will be on here complaining that her baby lost weight, ffs!?

MrsG2B07

*KatieH*:

Could someone pass the crack that everyone is smoking my way? 

She was withholding food from the baby! Next week she will be on here complaining that her baby lost weight, ffs! 

Yeah, its ridiculous to try to schedule babies that young!  They need to eat whenever they want to!

cops_wife

It really bugs me to think about a 1-week-old baby going hungry for an hour because its mom wants to schedule its feedings and keep it from snacking. My baby ate every 1.5 hours at least at a week old. My pedi suggested trying to hold her off until 2 hours. It felt wrong to me as a mother, so I didn't do it. And that was 2 hours, not 3-3.5. Expecting a 1-week-old to go 3.5 hours between meals is ridiculous. If that offends you, so be it.

MegGary

He was in the NICU & is 1 week old & she is trying to get him on a schedule & w/holding feeding from him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Honey I don't know whats worse. What she is doing or the fact that you are over here defending her. Sorry but if & when we where in the 0-6 stage most of us knew you DO NOT NOT FEED YOUR CHILD THAT YOUNG OR TRY TO PUT THEM ON A SCHEDULE. Omg omg omg. That post made me sad. Let that baby suck on your tit till it is ready to fall off if it wants to. He is NEW to this world. He needs any & all ways to sooth & nurture him.

The only schedule you need to worry about is the one that your child sets for you at this stage. If they want to eat every hour on the hour than thats when you feed them.

Listen we have all made mistakes, worried our heads off. The one thing that you never do is deny a newborn food, for any reason what so ever. If her ped is telling her otherwise, she needs a new ped.  

NewlywednOhio

What bugs me is mothers who neglect their child and don't feed them when they are hungry.

peainapod123

NewlywednOhio:

What bugs me is mothers who neglect their child and don't feed them when they are hungry.

This. Exactly this. That child is hungry. He's not "snacking."  

You know what? I'm sick of people like YOU telling everyone it's ok to starve their child for the sake of a schedule. 

mary5198

Sorry, but you can't defend her actions. A one week old baby cannot be on a schedule, period. FFS, feed that baby.

Mrs.State746

O.M.G........How can you do that to a 1 week old?  wants to avoid snacking?? At 1 week the baby isn't even aware it's outside the womb and freak out more than likely!  That's so sad. You have to work with the baby not make the baby work for you especially at that age.

iowagirl73

She may be asking to set a schedule but a one week old baby doesn't get put on a schedule period.  A newborn gets fed whenever they need it.  You can't schedule that.