Opinion needed please...

MrsGiviRN

Sorry if this is a little long and confusing but I'm a little sleep deprived and confused myself!!

Almost 2 weeks ago my nanny asked me if she could start taking care of Mikey at her home because her mother's health is ailing and she didn't want to leave her alone in the house all day while she comes to my house to take care of Mikey. (She was assumig that I would take Mikey there because I basically don;t have anyone else to watch him for me on the days that I work). She told me that she could definitely watch him all of last week but that she wanted to know if after that (meaning this week) she could start taking care of him at her house. I told her that I had to discuss it with my dh because as long as it was feasible we would like for him to be taken care of in our home due to both of our crazy and late schedules with work. Last week, I was fortunate enough to find someone else who is willing to drive to our house to watch our little one. She does come recommended from several sources. My problem is that dh tried talking to our current nanny last Friday about this entire situation and how we want Mikey to stay home and not go to her house. She started crying and then started saying that her mom was pretty stable for now and tried to change the topic. Sunday when I called her to confirm if she could still come this week to watch Mikey she said that it wouldn't be a problem. Last night her daughter (who is the one that drives her to our house) was telling me that she was taking vacation in April when we go away for the week on our cruise.

Our nanny is not aware that we have already found someone else who I asked if she could start next week. I wanted to approach her tonight and let her know that since she mentioned this whole scenario about having to take care of her mom and that she didn't know how much longer she could continue to come to our house..that we were proactive and started looking around. I don't want to hurt her feelings because she is a family friend but I don't know if telling her tonight that Friday (which is the next day she is scheuled to work) will be her last day is too "quick"... I don't want to lose the person that we already have lined up because I believe that it will work out better for our situation in the long run...What are your thoughts??? I really don;t want to hurt anyone's feelings, but if my current nanny would never have mentioned anything about watching Mikey at her house, then I probably would have gotten "screwed" somewhere down the line when her mom got even worse. HELP!!!

nelcen02

I know this sounds truly harsh and I don't mean it to be but you have to do what is best for your family. Remember that your nanny also gave you short notice in regards to taking your son over to her house (I realize that it might've been out of her control since its someone's health).

I'm not sure if this helped! Good luck.

cocojack10

I know it is a difficult decision, but like pp said, you need to keep your family first... and you need someone that is going to be there for Mikey while you guys are at work.  You and your DH decided that you wanted in-home daycare; explain that it is a difficult decision and that it doesn't relfect on her duties, but that you need security, and right now you don't feel like she can provide that.

Best of luck!

GoldieBride

Hey there:

It sounds like the issue with her mother will not be going away anytime soon. So even though she makes a sacrifice and continues to come to your house, it will eventually pop up again and next time you might not be so fortunate to have someone lined up ready to go. If I were in your shoes I would make the switch now and bring in the new nanny.

Jackie

melly&jimmy

I agree with PP.  You have to do what is best for your family. 

MrsGiviRN

I appreciate your feedback!!