Fussy twin/happy twin?

Cato3

Please tell me someone else has experience with this. One of my twins is very fussy and demanding while the other twin is a happy, easy going baby. I feel bad because I'm not able to give my happy baby as much attention as I'd like to because I'm always carrying, rocking, etc. her fussy twin. On top of that, I feel like the fussy twin is falling behind because she can't get beyond her fussiness. My happy twin likes to look at people and smile, bat at her toys on the play mat, and track her hand as she moves it in front of her face. Because the fussy twin has to be held and rocked constantly, she cries if she is placed on the play mat, given tummy time, etc. and therefore isn't developing the skills her twin has developed. Has anyone else experienced this? Does the fussiness get better? Any insight anyone can give would be much appreciated. I'm off to pick up a crying baby...

ncsubride

I have a similar issue.  Kate is my high maitenance little one and Ben is my chill baby.  Kate is about a month and a half ahead of Ben but I don't think in our case it has to do w/her being more high maitenance.  I def. feel the guilt about not being able to spend as much time w/Ben bc Kate is so demanding.  The fussiness does get better, Kate is getting less demanding as she is getting older which allows me to spend more time with Ben working on his skills.  Big Hugs!

2terps

I could have written this post myself...what you described is exactly what I see going on with my boys. I sure hope the fussiness gets better!

Jessarella

Welcome to my life. They are 18months old and since day 1 I have had 1 happy baby and 1 fussy/wild/loud/tantrum throwing baby If I didn't have my 1 happy child, I would wonder what the heck I am doing wrong.

 

Rose.9.6.03

I've totally been in your shoes.  Charlotte had colic for the first few months and even after that was just a much more difficult child.  She had a hard time with any change in schedule, was not a good sleeper, needed to be held, etc.  Evelyn was an easy child from day one.  She always slept when she was supposed to sleep, rarely needed to be held, rarely got fussy, and was very independent. 

 I was really worried about Charlotte's development (she also had some torticollis issues that delayed her gross motor skills) and felt guilty about not giving as much attention to Evelyn. 

Well, I can say I have  two very happy, healthy toddlers.  Charlotte mellowed out a lot by 18 months or so.  Evelyn actually got a bit more difficult (primarly stubborn).  And Charlotte totally caught up on all her gross motor skills. 

Just do what you need to do to keep them happy now and try not to worry too much.  My guess is things will be fine in the end.

JChandlerJBates

I have the same issue.  Andrew is very fussy and Cole is very calm and happy.  You are not alone.  Beacuse Andrew is always getting the attention I try and give Cole some alone time with Daddy and I.

macchiatto

I have the same problem! Especially the first month, one was at the extremely fussy end and one at the extremly easy end; since then they have both moved a bit toward the middle, but I still feel guilty that the more vocal, demanding twin gets more attention.