AnnapolisLari

Zenya

I didn't comment on your thread yesterday about your brother's wedding.  But I don't get why you were flamed.  I totally see how it is a PITA.  I don't leave my nursing babies at night unless it's with DH and LI is so awful during the summer.  Bumper to bumper on every route.

I hope you can work it out but I totally get why you are pissed off and how it seems impossible.  We missed a wedding last year b/c the only 2 sitters I trust were unavailable (and $$$$ to pay for their travel and hotel!).  It's hard when it's your brother, though.  But what can you do?  I wouldn't be comfortable finding a sitter on the internet.  I would need someone I knew!

kittycarr

I know we haven't actually met before, and I'm sure you'd turn me down, which is completely understandable, but I'd be more than happy to babysit the kids for you.  I don't know which direction the wedding is and how long you'd be gone but I'm game for a weekend - and only becuase I work during the week.

The offer is there!!

AnnapolisLari

I was just thinking about posting that I have been totally vindicated. LOL

My brother called last night, and said that a number of his friends can't afford to stay in the B&Bs in Sag Harbor, either. They all worked with him at Lehman Bros and other financial houses on Wall Street, and quite a few of them lost their jobs.

He also doesn't want us staying 15 miles away, so he's looking into renting a cottage/house  for us and his friends, and either subsidizing the cost or paying for it himself.

One of his closest friends will also have a new baby (1 month-ish at the time of the wedding), and we're going to see if she wants to split the sitter with us. I totally do NOT mind paying a decent chunk of change for a certified nanny, but just could not swing it with the cost of the B&B, too.

I know it is going to work out, but I think that I had a right to be annoyed. Some people just blew my mind in calling me a brat. I posted at the end of that thread this morning.

kittycarr

WOW!  Just found the post.  F*ck that.  I wouldn't go either.  Doens't sound like there will be many in attendance anyway.

Offer still stands though should you decide to go and start pumping a stash.  I absolutely wouldn't have left Brooke either.  She is only 2.5 and Ethan is almost 4 I think I'd only be ready to leave her now for a weekend and only with the IL's.  I couldn't imagine a 5 month old.  Screw your brother if he wants to be like that.

AnnapolisLari

And Kitty, I totally appreciate the offer. One of these days we need to get together. Once my whole moving thing is over, you can come down and help warm my new house!

CleoKitty

I just looked back at yesterday's posts and read it too. I totally see where you're coming from, especially the constant suggestions for hiring a lawyer to attend closing for you, to bring along another sitter, etc. How many times do you have to say that you can't afford to do x, y, or z? As someone very close to me always use to say, can't get blood from a turnip...

LanaM

Sorry for butting in....yep Lari, I agree, I'd be pissed too, vent away!

I think it's been mentioned in the OP, but I'll mention it again here. When we bought our house, our seller did not come to the closing. They signed all the paperwork and send it to our lawyer. The closing took like an hour and we just went through all the papers with our lawyer and were done with the purchase of our house.

Could you possibly do something like that?

I can't imagine having to close on the house and be at the wedding the next day in LI.

kittycarr

S is coming over sometime this summer, why don't you all plan on coming out then too?

Zenya

I Am glad things seem to be working out!

My favorite post yesterday was how someone left THEIR 11 week old to go 11 hours away.  ok...........  that is fine but you already said you don't want to leave your baby! Neither of mine would have been able to deal without me at that age.  

Splitting a sitter with the other family sounds like a great idea.

AnnapolisLari

Lana, I am looking into giving my realtor temporary power of attorney at closing.

The problem is that I am currently in Annapolis, which is 62 miles from my house, my realtor is here because this is where we are looking, and the buyers live up north of Baltimore. Closing will be at a title company about 50 miles from here. I don't know if my realtor would be willing to drive that far for me.

It is kind of a PITA all around.

neesernicole

I'm glad your brother is figuring things out.  It will work out but good grief, from where you were standing yesterday it seemed damned near impossible.

LanaM

Zenya:

I Am glad things seem to be working out!

My favorite post yesterday was how someone left THEIR 11 week old to go 11 hours away.  ok...........  that is fine but you already said you don't want to leave your baby! Neither of mine would have been able to deal without me at that age.  

Splitting a sitter with the other family sounds like a great idea.

Ditto.

Lari, it does sound like a royal PITA. Hope you can work something out.

AnnapolisLari

neesernicole:

I'm glad your brother is figuring things out.  It will work out but good grief, from where you were standing yesterday it seemed damned near impossible.

Had we been given more notice, we could have saved up the extra cash and it would have been a moot point. They were ambiguously talking about a September wedding, and all of a sudden decided on May.

No way could we come up with an extra $1000 or so on 8 weeks notice. Not with closing costs and other moving expenses.

I think he must have gotten a bunch of calls over the weekend saying "thanks, but we can't afford to be there".