Babysitter issue

bashfordlane

We're getting a babysitter for tomorrow night while we attend a party.  Babysitter's mom just called me (we're friends) and asked if babysitter's boyfriend can come over to hang out with babysitter after DD goes to sleep. I said no. Mom seemed a bit surprised. Thoughts? Did I do the right thing? Sitter is a sophomore in high school and boyfriend is a freshman in college.  I'm not sure my opinion would change if it was a girlfriend, I'm just not comfortable with having friends over when I'm paying her to do a job. (Guess I just $crewed myself on finding a Saturday night babysitter in the future!)  I'm curious as to what everyone else is doing - what is the "norm" these days?  I never had friends visit me at babysitting jobs back in the olden days when I used to babysit.  TIA!

*sparky*

I think I would have said no also.  I don't like the idea of sitter and her BF being alone unsupervised in my house.

AnnapolisLari

Absolutely not. I pay you to watch my kids, not hang out with your (boy)friend.

Reagan's Mommy

I would have said no, too.

First of all, if she's old enough to babysit and have a boyfriend in college, she's old enough to make that phone call herself, rather than have her mom call.

Second, I just wouldn't be comfortable with the situation.  I'm paying someone to watch my kid, not hang out with their boyfriend.  Also, I would probably feel a little differently if it was just a friend.  But, even then, I'm not crazy about the idea of someone I don't know being in my house with my kid when I'm not there.  Maybe I'm just overprotective like that.

Brideofranken

it is weird to me that her mother is advocating this...my ma would have KILLED me if she found out I had a boyfriend over while I was babysitting-she told me from the beginning of my "career" that that was beyond unacceptable...I agree.

my ma was a bit of a micro manager, though and is overly obsessed with NEVER doing anything that might be perceived as trashy...( I was never allowed to wear jelly shoes outside of the house, for example, because she thought they were the official footwear of WT worldwide..)

felt_tip_pen

I would have said no. She needs to be paying attention to the kid, not her boyfriend or even a friend.

breezee_bean

absolutely not ok. 

rebs

You said she asked for the boyfriend to come over after DD was asleep.  That wouldn't bug me, b/c the sitter would most likely just be watching tv anyway.  I would want to have met the guy before though.  One of our babysitters often has her sister walk over after the kids are asleep to watch movies with her.

I tend to be pretty relaxed about these things.  I do not think there is anything wrong with you saying no though.  I never brought friends when I babysat, but I do remember some nights being really boring. 

stacynikki

Absolutely NO to the boyfriend! A college aged one at that.  I can't believe her mom was okay with that.  A girlfriend to come over and watch movies AFTER the kids were asleep, I would be okay with.  But no way a boyfriend.