I am so excited for all the new BFPs, but....

BeckyS1211

I feel like I don't "know" some of you.  I am so happy for you and your success, but it would mean more if you would share a little bit of your story. 

I hope this doesn't come out the wrong way and offend people.  I just know that after being here since December I'm by no means an oldie, but I consider myself a regular-even though I have been trying to reduce my bump time.  But, if I'm a little bothered by "drive by BFPs" I can only imagine how the oldies are feeling.... 

jen-dale

I agree a lot with you Becky. I think the more I know, the more motivated and happy I will feel! I hope that doesn't sound selfish.

SweetieD21

I agree, I like to feel like I "know" you.  I am by no means an "oldie" though.  I miscarried last May.  When I was pregnant I was mostly on the tri boards.  Then when I had my m/c I would go on the miscarriage/pregnancy loss board, but it was too hard for me.  Just recently have we started to try again, so I'm pretty new to this board. 

qsuziez

I would totally feel the same way - I mean it is exciting but it doesn't feel the same when those of us who need hope from people who have experienced the same thing, just see random BFP's from people we don't really know all that well.

It's important for all of us with losses to come together and get through it all together.  So jump in and let us get to know you a little better.

 

BeckyS1211

I'm glad some of you feel kind of the same way I do...I am happy for the new BFPs, but it would mean so much more to know the background.  That way we can be that much happier for your SAL.

krate24

I agree with this.  I get more excited for the "regulars" because I know more about them.  I am still pretty new here, but I'm trying to get to know the people here so that when I eventually get my BFP, it will be more fun to share.

MrsGhappilyeverafter

I completely agree. There were some posts about this problem a while back. Basically, if you really only lurk here, we understand that you feel like you "know" us, but unfortunately we don't "know" you. Therefore, the best place to post a BFP would be SAL.

NCSunshinegirl

Oh Becky....I am so sorry...and if you will see my post above where I announced it...that is kinda why I have really been hesitant to say anything or announce it here....but I didn't want to just "dissapear" or go away just bc I got a bfp...bc trust me girls....I am scared crapless every day and I won't be 100% until I have a baby in my arms....I am soooooo sorry for everyone on here who has suffered a loss...and that is why I wanted to be sensitive and not just announce it with the list of people this weekend who announced theirs...(I am totally not knocking the other gals--I personally just felt bad bc there seemed to be some hurt feelings on Saturday)

SOOO, all that being said, I don't want to just be a drive by BFP:)  i have been on here since Jan 18th, the day I found out I had lost my baby at around 5w....and I really hope I can stick around this board for a while bc I have really gotten sooooo  much from you girls...especially you Becky....and I want to be here next month when you get your BFP...

PLEASE don't be upset with me..honestly, I had already counted myself out last week bc of issues that I couldn't control with timing and a business trip...I love all of the girls here and I am praying you all get your miracles soon....

Becky....I love you girl and I am still rooting for those A game swimmers to meet your egg in a few weeks!

knelli

I'll go... I've been here since January but some people may not know me...

I was 13 weeks pg when I went in for my 1st tri screening and the Dr. found several health issues with the baby, mostly heart issues. Only 1 chamber in the heart formed, the aortic valve was open and the Dr couldn't believe that the baby made it that far along.  We were given our "options" and over the weekend the baby's heart stopped a couple days later and we went in for a D&E.  We found out that we had a baby girl and she had Trisomy 18.

Dh and I were doing the "if it happens it happens" thing and were very lucky to get pg right away, for it to end this way was devestating!  We were given the green light to TTC again and we went with the same plan (if it happens....) but I put a little more effort into the days around O obviously! We want a baby so badly and we will be testing this weekend.  I am not expecting us to get pg as easy as we did the first time, but I am praying that we are lucky and this time we will get to bring our baby home.

 

emma9

very well put Becky ! ?I've been here since sept/Oct and it is so exciting when you see a cycle buddy "graduate" to SAL or some one who you see here all the time - I can't wait to join all the recent graduates on SAL !?

(It's just taking longer than I thought....)?

thewarrens

Hi! Not sure if you "know" me or not ...been on here since last April, when our son was born, still (umbilical cord accident) 2 days past his due date.

We've been dying to get pregnant, but I didn't get my first AF (since the loss) until 2/24.

I'm now in my 2WW.

jen-dale

emma9:

very well put Becky !  I've been here since sept/Oct and it is so exciting when you see a cycle buddy "graduate" to SAL or some one who you see here all the time - I can't wait to join all the recent graduates on SAL ! 

(It's just taking longer than I thought....) 

 

Yes! This! But I haven't been on this board that long. I was on a different site after MC and those ladies could NEVER compare to you. So I am so happy I found TTCAL!

SweetPea517

Well, I have no BFP to report just yet (at this point I am still awaing the return of AF), but I have been lurking on here since my miscarriage on February 5th at 10 weeks and 6 days due to a blighted ovum.  Since then life has been a rollercoaster of emotions (as you, unfortuantely, know all too well.)  There are the pratical days when I know that I do not want to be pregnant for the sake of being pregnant, but rather to have a happy and healthy addition to our family in 9+ months.  There are the angry days when I think that I would have been better off just not getting pregnant so soon (on the very first try.)  And then there are the sad days when I just wanna cry and grieve our loss.  All in all the experience has been very lonely--between people not knowing how to react and others who say the wrong things and a husband, who cannot fully understand that it is a different experience for the wife. 

At this point I am so thankful to have access to this message board and to not be all alone--to see that we have similar thoughts and questions.  So, thank you all for sharing your stories and cheering one another along.   

 

BeckyS1211

knelli:

I'll go... I've been here since January but some people may not know me...

I was 13 weeks pg when I went in for my 1st tri screening and the Dr. found several health issues with the baby, mostly heart issues. Only 1 chamber in the heart formed, the aortic valve was open and the Dr couldn't believe that the baby made it that far along.  We were given our "options" and over the weekend the baby's heart stopped a couple days later and we went in for a D&E.  We found out that we had a baby girl and she had Trisomy 18.

Dh and I were doing the "if it happens it happens" thing and were very lucky to get pg right away, for it to end this way was devestating!  We were given the green light to TTC again and we went with the same plan (if it happens....) but I put a little more effort into the days around O obviously! We want a baby so badly and we will be testing this weekend.  I am not expecting us to get pg as easy as we did the first time, but I am praying that we are lucky and this time we will get to bring our baby home.

 

Knelli-

I'm so sorry about your sweet baby girl   I know it is hard, but thank you so much for sharing your story.  I think that is part of what makes TTCAL so great.  We do want to know your story so we can support you on your ups and your downs. 

knelli

BeckyS1211:

knelli:

I'll go... I've been here since January but some people may not know me...

I was 13 weeks pg when I went in for my 1st tri screening and the Dr. found several health issues with the baby, mostly heart issues. Only 1 chamber in the heart formed, the aortic valve was open and the Dr couldn't believe that the baby made it that far along.  We were given our "options" and over the weekend the baby's heart stopped a couple days later and we went in for a D&E.  We found out that we had a baby girl and she had Trisomy 18.

Dh and I were doing the "if it happens it happens" thing and were very lucky to get pg right away, for it to end this way was devestating!  We were given the green light to TTC again and we went with the same plan (if it happens....) but I put a little more effort into the days around O obviously! We want a baby so badly and we will be testing this weekend.  I am not expecting us to get pg as easy as we did the first time, but I am praying that we are lucky and this time we will get to bring our baby home.

 

Knelli-

I'm so sorry about your sweet baby girl   I know it is hard, but thank you so much for sharing your story.  I think that is part of what makes TTCAL so great.  We do want to know your story so we can support you on your ups and your downs. 

Thanks Becky.  Unfortunatly I spent quite a bit of time on the pg loss/mc board and everyone there knew what happened and they were the ones I went to when I got the test results back because I didn't feel like I "belonged" here until I was actually TTC again, post AF... if I would have known how great everyone here is I would have been here the day of my loss!  I thank everyone on this board for making it so incredibly special, I still love the pg loss board and frequent it.... but this is where I find the support to move forward.  As much as I want my BFP this weekend, I don't think I will be able to leave this board yet!  I love all of you girls!

BeckyS1211

The Warrens:

Hi! Not sure if you "know" me or not ...been on here since last April, when our son was born, still (umbilical cord accident) 2 days past his due date.

We've been dying to get pregnant, but I didn't get my first AF (since the loss) until 2/24.

I'm now in my 2WW.

My little guy had an umbilical cord problem too.

amanda&paul

I haven't been around for too long, but did introduce myself when Ellenaxo told me about this board. I don't "Nest" much anymore, but when I do, I come here.  I got my BFP November 13th, and started spotting on 12/9 (my birthday).  I went for an u/s and where I should have been about 8.5-9 weeks, I was only measuring 5. I ended up miscarrying naturally a few days later. 

 We just started TTC for real again this cycle.  Last cycle was my 1st full cycle a fter the m/c and I just wasn't ready yet.  So, now I wait, hoping for a BFP.  I don't *know* any of you, but I didn't want to be just a lurker or occasional poster.  So, that's my story.

lunatwo

Well said!  Here's my soapbox speech about lurking:

I never quite understood lurking on a loss board.  I know that people come here and lurk to get support for themselves, but if you don't post, you are not repaying the favor and giving support back.  That is definitely your own decision.  But then why come out of lurking to post your BFP?  To those of us who have been trying for a long time, it is painful to see them every day from people who never posted before to give hugs or say "sorry AF came" or whatever.  If you decide not to post at all, fine.  But don't start with a BFP on a loss board.  I am not a bitter person, I just think that if you want to start posting on BFP day, start with SAL and introduce yourself there.

The great Luna has spoken!

gallerygirl

lunatwo:

Well said!  Here's my soapbox speech about lurking:

I never quite understood lurking on a loss board.  I know that people come here and lurk to get support for themselves, but if you don't post, you are not repaying the favor and giving support back.  That is definitely your own decision.  But then why come out of lurking to post your BFP?  To those of us who have been trying for a long time, it is painful to see them every day from people who never posted before to give hugs or say "sorry AF came" or whatever.  If you decide not to post at all, fine.  But don't start with a BFP on a loss board.  I am not a bitter person, I just think that if you want to start posting on BFP day, start with SAL and introduce yourself there.

The great Luna has spoken!

Very well put, Luna girl!

Somebody usually asks a "drive by" to share their story... I've done it a few times and I have seen Luvs do it as well. 

ade2be

I feel the same, I'm really excited for everybody, but I like to know a little more about people. One thing that I've noticed is that I'm really bad with names....but I can remember people based upon the siggy and pics.  So posters without that, I just don't remember very well.

k.linn

I'll go. I found out I was pregnant right after Christmas (completely unplanned), and then miscarried on 1/12 right at seven weeks. Although we hadn't planned on getting pregnant so soon, we were devastated, and had gotten used to the idea of having kids sooner than we thought. We waited one cycle, then started sort of TTC (dh worked out of state and was only home for 4 days in Feb). Luckily he was home the right four days; we got our bfp this past Saturday. I'm elated, but also kind of a wreck. I'm just so scared things could go wrong again, so I'm being rather cautious. I should have my beta results back tomorrow. I'm hoping that eases my mind a bit for the time being.

I don't get to post/frequent the boards as much as I would like (it's blocked from work), but when I hop on here nights and weekends it's definitely been a great support.