I know we have talked about open/closed adoptions (DA but I suppose this could relate to IA too):
We recently considered a situation in which a birth mother desired a completely, 100% closed adoption. She did not want to meet. She did not want names or any information to be shared. She did not want pictures or letters EVER in the future. For those that read my earlier post last week, this is the same situation in which the baby will be born with a correctable issue but will require up to 12 weeks in the NICU. I cried when I read she wanted 100% complete closure in the adoption. ?
If you want a closed adoption or would consider a situation in which the birth mother wanted a closed adoption - how do you plan to explain this to your child?
As in ..
- do you plan to tell your child that they were adopted or conceal that fact?
- if you plan to be open with your child from the beginning about them being adopted - how will you explain their adoption if you have no information about the birth family other than social/medical history and had no interactions or personality information to share with them