So, my mom and stepdad were in court yesterday to make their divorce official. SD has been around since I was 2 and is my dad for all intents and purposes. Things were brutally in his favor and mom got screwed- beyond what I ever imagined. It's so crappy to be in this situation as an adult b/c they dish all of the dirt that you don't want to hear about your parents. It's so crappy to see ppl not love each other anymore- well these two almost hate each other.
And, the worst part is that they already compete for my attention when I'm home and one gets hurt if I spend more time with the other. (17 hours away= home). I'm going home in April and it's going to be WW3.... it's so stressful and so sucky. And, SD is probably going to propose to his new GF when they go to Mexico next month while my mom is at home paying his court costs... ugh.. SD is so happy now- and I'm happy for him but it would be easier if Mom was equally happy... VENT OVER.
Re: NMR: Divorce sucks!
Totally sucks. I have been through it twice. Once with my parents when I was 16 and then more recently with my dad and stepmom.
Both times were a NIGHTMARE. I know things about my parents no child should ever know.
Yah- and let's not forget I went through this with my father & stepmom already... and way back, once upon a time, mother & father... Fack. DH is lucky- there's pretty much nothing he could do that would warrant a divorce from me- I just wouldn't do it. Unless he broke some serious laws in which case he would be in jail & divorced.
I know it sounds crazy but I don't even think it would be a deal breaker if he cheated (not that I wouldn't make his life hell). I think that sometimes our parents generation through the "D" word around too quickly.
Please no flames I already feel sh1tty enough... and I'm totally not judging divorced people, I totally get that makes sense a lot of the time. It's just not for me.
You know, that is why it took me so long to get married and even longer to have kids.
No flames but having experienced an affair, I understand why people get divorced from it. I have forgiven DH but recovering from it is a completely different story. Every day I have to choose to love him. Every day I have to choose to trust him. Every day I choose to stay. It is sometimes exhausting.