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H made me feel stupid last night

ChelleMChelleM
in 3rd Trimester

We just registered for our childbirth class and the hospital sent us a pain relief pamphlet in the mail.

We were looking over it, and I told him that part of me would like to try childbirth without pain medication.  He tells me that he thinks that's a horrible idea and that it's incredibly painful (really?!).

So I tell him I've experienced extreme pain with my endometriosis.  Before he let me finish, he gave me this DUMB look and goes on to tell me that childbirth is nothing like my endo blah blah blah.

No sh!t. Not that he would know what either pain feels like, anyway.

With my endo I had many episodes like passing out, calling 911, crapping my pants and vomitting because of the pain... laying on the floor, writhing and screaming out in pain and so on.  I'm not saying that endo pain is the SAME as childbirth but I've felt extreme pain before and I don't think it's crazy to want to try, right?

I got upset with him b/c he made me feel foolish and then he accused me of being emotional b/c I'm pregnant.

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  • GRKatersGRKaters member

    He sounds... supportive. Are you going to have a doula?

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  • lovindanlovindan
    You are not stupid for not wanting to use pain medication during childbirth. Do what makes you comfortable!
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  • mommy411mommy411 member
    imageGRKaters:

    He sounds... supportive. Are you going to have a doula?

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    OH WAIT!!! he will be so shocked and he will feel stupid later on when he see's how well you do with out pain meds!

    Ditto Doula?

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  • avalonrose24avalonrose24
    Not to mention--who is HE to be making YOU feel stupid about it?  Has he ever experienced it or will he ever?  Or, is he just talking out his a$$?
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  • leanneraeleannerae

    Is this the same guy that told you you're going to get too fat to wear your maternity clothes after this baby?

    If so... what the h#$& ?

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  • dmogmodmogmo
    Men, including DH's don't get an opinion on what labor pain is like. That's my philosophy anyway.
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  • courtneyaokcourtneyaok
    In the end, it's your body and your choice.  Whatever choice you make, whether you do a completely natural, med-free childbirth or end up deciding that you need medication after a while, he needs to get with the program and respect your decisions.

    I know that everyone's relationship with their DH is different, but I was talking about this with mine and he was sort of "it looks like it hurts really bad and isn't something I'd want to go through, so I'll respect your decision no matter what."  Which obviously, I appreciate.
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  • courtneyaokcourtneyaok
    In the end, it's your body and your choice.  Whatever choice you make, whether you do a completely natural, med-free childbirth or end up deciding that you need medication after a while, he needs to get with the program and respect your decisions.

    I know that everyone's relationship with their DH is different, but I was talking about this with mine and he was sort of "it looks like it hurts really bad and isn't something I'd want to go through, so I'll respect your decision no matter what."  Which obviously, I appreciate -- only the woman actually going through labor can know what she does/doesn't need.
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