either i'm crazy or DH is in total denial..vent

lindseyMc

I'm 35 weeks pregnant and i've told DH that i'm ok with driving 3+ hrs up to tahoe one last time this weekend. I figure i'm not showing any signs of this baby showing up this early so we should be good to go (only going Friday to Sunday). But DH is now trying to say he'll probably shoot up there again after this weekend. We share a car and he would either have to take our car and leave me stranded or catch a ride with one of our friends. Either way, i say after 36 weeks of pregnancy (next wednesday) this is REALLY not a good idea for him to be so far away.

He's rolling his eyes at me because he thinks since this is our first, we should be good until the due date. I, on the other hand, have read enough birth stories about first timers giving birth at 36 weeks on and i'm terrified at the idea of going early and being away from my midwife. 

I think he is in total denial that we could have a baby sooner then our due date and that there will be obvious signs that it will happen soon. ie: loosing MP, baby dropping lower, etc. I know that these are signs that its coming but sometimes they don't show up until right before labor and it could be too late. Now tell me i'm not crazy to be annoyed.

alatham

i'd definitely be pissed!

mommacaz

I agree with you.  I don't want my DH too far from me..no more than work distance away (20 minutes).

If something happens, I want him close enough to come home to take me to the hospital!

GL

mrs.m-ski

I tell MH that we have to take it day by day. He took DD up to the mountains 2.5 hours away last weekend and I was fine. He was considering going up to the mountains again (about an hour away, but he'd be skiing, so hard to reach) but that ended up not working out.

BUT, all of that was with me having a car with me along with many friends around to help me out if I needed it. I'd be annoyed if MH wanted to just leave me. I'd want to be with someone who could take me to the hospital (mh or a friend), and I'd tell him I have the right to tell him "no" all the way up to the time he left.

Good luck!

angeltex

I don't think you are being unreasonable at all.  This would piss and scare the hell out of me.

TCsbride

He def should NOT be going. When I was pregnant with my first, my in laws decided to go on one quick weekend vacation about 6 hours away before we had the baby. We kept joking the second they got there I'd go into labor. Sure enough, about 2 hours after they got there, I just stood up and my water broke out of the blue. They turned right around and had t come home. They almost didn't make it to the hospital before Luke was born!

mommacaz

also..up until this point, while I wasn't worried I'd go into labour, when my DH was away, I either called my parents or my IL's to make sure they were around in case I needed them.

Still...keep him close by!! lol

lindseyMc

thanks ladies. Yeah, i'm not budging on this one. The idea of him being 3+ hrs away really scares me. Especially since it's still snowing up there and sometimes the roads are really bad which can add hours on to the trip. My IL's are about 30 mins away but i'm going to labor at home and the idea of not having DH there to help me is scary. My mom is in Michigan so i don't even have her nearby. I think if he tries to push this issue, his sweet pregnant wife is going grow horns and start breathing fire.

Vitsky

dh went snowboarding 6 hours away when i was 37 weeks...i was NOT happy however i had an ob appt right before he left and i was showing no progress so i thought it would be ok