S/O on Discipline post.

TamTam624

Telling your child no, I already tell DS no to things, like he found he voice and was screaming in the restaurant and I told him no that he couldn't scream in the restaurant and gave him a toy to play with to change what he was doing.

I didn't think there was a set age that you could start telling them no and then redirecting them to another activity. 

I do not agree with the slapping on the hand etc, my SIL does this with my nephew and has done it for some time and now when she says no he freaks out runs from her.

mrs_harper

My SIL does the same thing, and it pisses me off. I don't like it anyway, but she also does it for things that will really confuse him, like playing with my DD's toys. Toys are toys to him, and if she keeps doing that, he'll just think he's not allowed to play or something.

Crystal&Jason Murphy

a little article. on "NO"

 

Saying No, and Making it Effective

What is the most spoken word among toddlers today? That?s right, ?No?. Why do toddlers prefer this word to others? Because it?s often the word they hear the most.

When we say ?no? too often to our babies and toddlers, does the word lose its effect? Imagine being blind with no sense of touch, and finally being able to see and feel. Would you want to explore your world? Every light, every shiny object? Of course you would.

When you are saying ?no? to your baby when he touches the things around him, you are saying ?no? to his natural curiosity. Eventually, he will ignore you and go after things when you are not looking, or he will become anxious in his own home.

If this is the case, how do you protect your things and stop your baby from hurting himself? Some parents believe you should put up everything you don?t want your baby to touch. Others keep their house the same as pre-baby and keep saying ?no?.

How about being somewhere in the middle? You definitely want to baby proof your home, but you should encourage your baby to touch as many objects and textures as possible. If he is curious about a certain knick knack on your coffee table, and you know that it?s delicate, teach him to touch delicately. ?Gentle? is a great word to teach him. Squat behind him and show him a gentle touch. ?Gentle? has a more open, pleasant connotation than ?no?, don?t you think?

When do you use the ?no? word? Make it a point to use ?no? when your baby is doing something dangerous: Moving towards the fireplace, running towards the street, eating rocks. When you save your ?no?s? for the important things, he will pay more attention.

Doug'sFiance

I teach Child Development and while I am no expert, everything I read and teach students is that you do not punish until the child is INTENTIONALLY misbehving which generally happens around age 2 (give or take a few months.)  Shouting, throwing food, or other things seen as misbehavior before age 2 are typically a result of boredom, tiredness, experimentation, or frustration and should be responded to with a calm "No" and redirection or removal from the situation.