I've changed my mind about DS's name... but I think it's too late...

Cath&Brian

So, DH picked baby B's name before we were even sure if it was a boy. ?I like the name-- if someone else introduced their child to me as ________ I would think it was adorable, and honestly, I was just glad DH had a strong opinion about something important and I didn't hate it.

So, I'm due any second now (not really for 2 weeks, but I've been in PTL for 8 weeks so who knows), and all of a sudden I'm questioning it. ?When we say his name I associate it with the active little thing INSIDE me, but I can't picture the baby, toddler, etc with that name. ?Does that make sense?

I mentioned it to DH and I think I hurt his feelings, and he's just not budging. I get it, since 16 weeks that's been his name. ?It almost feels wrong to change it now. ?THEN I mentioned it to my mom and she goes, "you know, I've never really liked it, it doesn't really go with his brother's name." ?Agh! ?If I wasn't questioning it already I would never let that get to me, but now... I don't know!

Someone tell me that once he's born and that's his name I'll never think twice about it. ?Right?? ?

bridesea

If you've liked it for the past 20+ weeks, you'll like it when he's born.  It's natural to have doubts-- this is a big choice!  But when I had doubts at about 35w, my husband said, "Let's stick with the name we've loved all along... if we change 'on a whim' we could regret it."  And now I can't imagine my kids being named anything else than what they are-- it's so obvious to me that when I heard of another kid with my DD's name, I said to DH, "How they could name their kid that?  There is obviously only one true S___ in the world, and she's ours." 

That said... I do know a woman who regrets her daughter's name, and even considered changing it when the girl was about 2! 

 

 

 

jdchris

We couldn't decide between Anna and Emma, and went with Anna.  In the hospital I kept calling her "Emma."  I was worried that I chose the wrong name, she should be Emma, etc.  But we kept it as Anna and I am so glad, she is not an Emma at all!  I think you will identify DS with the name you give him after a short time, and won't even think of another name.  As for your mom, just tell her that your DH really has his heart set on the name so you are going with it.  I never told anyone the names we were considering for that very reason...didn't want their opinion to change my mind.

macchiatto

Hmm ... if I were you and you're really not sure if you like it now, I would go ahead and change it now before it's too late. I'm realizing now that I really like one of my son's MN better than his FN and wishing we'd gone with that as his FN. (We had a reason why we didn't but now I'm thinking it wasn't the best reason.) OTOH, DH didn't like our other son's name that much when I was suggesting it and agreed to it more b/c I liked it so much ... and now he loves it and can't picture our son with any other name. So I guess the question is, are you more like me or like my husband?

shopgirl_07

It's certainly not too late, he's not even been born yet!

tripletmom

it is not too late.

MandieSueM

We waited to meet our kids before deciding on names b/c we didn't want to name them someting that didn't "fit" without even knowing them.  We made a short list and brought it with us to the hospital.  It took about a week, maybe a couple days less, but we finally named them!  LOL

People mis-name their children so often that there is some rule that you have 90 days to legally change your baby's name after they're born.  So if you do decided to go for it and end up regretting it, I believe you have a little bit of time to figure it all out before he's stuck with it.

Don't listen to your mom; why do their names have to go together?  None of my kids' names "go together" and I am so glad we did it that way.  Do what you and DH feel is best for you BOTH.  Maybe if you sit with him and explain why you are freaking out about the name, and offer him alternatives or offer using the name you originally picked as a middle name, he would feel better about it.  You guys are a team and can't get hurt feelings over something as simple as a name.  Trust me!!! 

kaliedescope

Maybe you could pick an alternate name and wait until you see him to decide.  It's a big decision you don't want to regret either way. 

laceymb

It is a huge decision to name your children. You want it to be a great name that fits them well and sometimes it is hard to tell until they get here if it is The One. That said, if you have liked the name for that long already and are just now having doubts at the last minute, it kinda sounds like you just have cold feet. Its normal to worry about whether the name is right, but are you sure you want to change it?

weemodin

We picked James for DS very early on, before we even knew if we were having a boy.  When he was born, for the first two weeks I had to fight every urge to call him Ben.  Eventually, I got used to James, but I'll be damned if the kid doesn't look like a Ben!!!

I'd wait till he's born

courtneyaok

I had the same problem with DD's name -- we had decided for the longest time that if we were having a girl, she would be Gabrielle (Gabby) or Mackenzie.  Around 20 weeks, I just had to tell DH "no" because I just didn't see myself calling her that -- that name just wasn't right for her.  It took a couple weeks for us, but we did come up with a name that we love so much more, and that we both think is much more fitting for our little girl.