MIL annoys me

queenie521

She doesn't necessarily do anything "wrong" but I am annoyed by most things she does with my son.  I guess I just feel like she thinks he is "her baby".  She watches him twice a week and is supposed to be doing it at our house but right now she is having some construction done so is watching him at her house.  She basically has an entire nursery set up.  She has one room "which she calls TJs room" which she has a PnP, a bouncer that she bought, a play mat that she bought, a $90 jumeroo that she bought, AND she bought him clothes that she does nto give to me for him, but keeps at HER house (I've always supplied her with emergency clothes for "what-if" situations). 

Now she is making lunch dates with all her friends and relatives at her house to show off my baby.

I dont know........she just annoys me!

inbetweendreams

That would annoy me, too. It's nice that she's excited, but it's almost like she's playing house.

Lerxie

If she gets her haircut like you or asks what kind of perfume you wear....Run. Fast.

honeybeez

My MIL buys toys for DD for Christmas, but they have to stay at her house. We don't go over there very much. Be happy that she bought a pnp, MIL is using the porta-crib, high chair and dishes that DH used when he was a kid and he's 36. She says that they are still good.

Connors10

I kinda don't see what the problem is...she is making sure your DC is entertained and comfortable at her house...I guess I don't see the harm in it. I would be appreciative of the fact that she wants to do so many things for DC, a lot of other people don't have relatives (inlaw or not) that aren't as helpful or excited about watching over a baby. The more comfortable your DC is at her house, the better...but thats just my opinion.

queenie521

And when I complain to DH about these things he tells me "Well her world revolves around TJ"  saying it all sympathetic for her.  And I just want to scream to him "THATS THE PROBLEM!!"
 
I should not have to feel like I am going to OFFEND her when there are things I want her to do or not do for TJ.  But anytime I correct her she gets all "poor me, poor me".
 
Example.....she had painting/staining done in her house while TJ is there and it REAKED of fumes and I was so pissed off.  I couldnt say anything to her and had to go through DH to tell her she cant do that (which he agreed with me on).  And then he goes to their house one morning and comes back saying that he doesnt understand what the big deal is.  HELLO.......those things are HARMFUL to his little body and lungs.  So I have TJ in daycare this whole week since the painters are back and DH is now telling me that he thinks that the BENEFIT of having him be with his grandmother instead of being in daycare a whole extra TWO DAYS outweighs the HARM of him sitting in those fumes.  And I KNOW its because his mother gave him the whole "poor me...Id do nothing to harm TJ, why are you punishing me and taking him away?" BULLSHIT!

Michelle Kaler

::butting in:: sorry to intrude, I don't even know how I found your post, but I sympathize with anyone who is annoyed by her MIL.?

Anyhow, I would have a big problem with your son being at her house due to the construction. ?If anything that is the reason she should be watching him at your house, not hers. ?

MIL's don't get that the things that were ok when we were babies are NOT OK now. ? ?For God's sake, my mom smoked while pregnant with me. ? Your MIL may not get that paint fumes and saw dust are detrimental to babies' tiny lungs and brains.

I hope your DH gets on board with you soon. ? Make him read the complete organic pregnancy or Healthy Child, Healthy World. ?

Its nice she's set up a room for your son at her house and I am sure it will come in handy when her construction is done. ? ?Good luck. ?