Vent. I need a vacation from DH. Long.

JoyousJulia

He hasn't been working since December. (Laid off.) Having him home all the time has it's upsides (i.e. DS has gotten to know him much better). But it has its downsides, too. He's thrown the SAHM schedule off. (For example: I have a rule that if you're at home, you still have to get up everyday and get dressed because it can go a long way toward putting structure into the day. DH has spent most of his days in pjs.) DH gets all grumpy when I'm haivng a bumpy day and call him into "action" more than usual. Look if I need help and you're in the room, you're getting asked to help.

The capper has been this last week, though. We've all had terrible colds and DH seems to be laboring under the delusion that if he's sick, he doesn't have to participate in baby care. WRONG! Dude, if I don't get a "sick day" being a SAHM, neither do you. Sorry. You can nap when he naps like I do. I'm more than happy to give you any breaks that I'm able, but I can only handle so much myself.

So, DH is all moody because he's tired and has been a real d!ck all day today. (And believe me, I don't usually use that word, but he has been.) I wish I were up to taking DS and getting out for the day. I need some space from DH and all his crap.

*Bre*

I would leave DS with him and go out by myself, if I were you. Also...is he actively looking for a job?

JoyousJulia

He's been taking a break while we've been sick.

*Bre*

I see, maybe try to get out during DS's nap tomorrow? That way your DH can chilll a bit but still watch DS and you can get a BREAK

Brookie-Cookie

that's tough but I def think you need to get an hour or two of YOU time even if its just grocery shopping or a walk somewhere.  Good luck.

LoriFalce

IMO, if he's laid off, you are both SAH parents. There's no excuse for you pulling more duty than he does.

Matthew and I both WAH. Doesn't mean I'm writing AND being Joseph's sole caregiver, and doesn't mean that HE helps ME. We're both responsible for the care of our son. We're both home all day. We both share in what needs to be done for him.

jenifairies

I'm sorry Julia. He must really be being a jerk for you to get to this point.

He should definitely be more helpful. I agree, if he's not working, he should be pitching in a lot more. I get that he's sick, but you are too! I had DH take off work to give me a sick day a few weeks ago. I would be adamant about getting a break. Talk to him and make him know you're serious.

Good luck, girl. And lots of virtual hugs!

mlc92404

Why dont you look for a part time job.....that way he finds out what its like to take care of your LO on his own!  Maybe that will get his butt in gear to find a job!

middlemarch26

LoriFalce:

IMO, if he's laid off, you are both SAH parents. There's no excuse for you pulling more duty than he does.

Matthew and I both WAH. Doesn't mean I'm writing AND being Joseph's sole caregiver, and doesn't mean that HE helps ME. We're both responsible for the care of our son. We're both home all day. We both share in what needs to be done for him.

I totally argee.  Who are these husbands?  Any time DH and I are both at home, parenting is a shared responsibility.  Just because I'm a SAHM doesn't make me the sole 24/7 caregiver.  DH does not "help" me with DS, he just takes care of his son.