feeling self conscious...hopefully not flame worthy

Lovin Wife

I went for a monthly check up today and I have gained 22 pounds so far.  I wasn't feeling bad about it, but the more I think about it I am feeling self concious. Especially when I hear people say, WOW you are so big!!!! The doctor was not overly concerned, just said to start walking daily. 

AshNicole331

I think what you're feeling is normal. I turn my head when they weigh me because I honestly don't want to know!

mavilabride

Aww its ok.  I think being self conscious about a changing body is totally normal.

Most important thing though is that baby and mommy are healthy.

Chelsi22

In your picture you look great, don't worry about it just do like the doctor said and you will be fine. Don't worry you look great.

kweido

I got on the scales yesterday and I've gained 10 pounds since my last appointment, for a total of 25 so far.  So, I'm a little scared about what the doctor is going to say tomorrow at my appointment.  Everyone has started commenting on the size of my tummy in the past week.  So, I guess the little one has had a major growth spurt!

IselaCid

Weight gain is hard to come to terms with, regardless of why.  I feel ya on that one!  ((HUGS))

laurensmerritt

Aww, I' m worried that I'll feel that way too when i start gaining the weight.  It seems like sometime people just gain a lot of weight even though they're dong everything right, so its not always bad.

The question is, are you doing everything you can to feel good about yourself and be healthy?  Do you know that you eat right?  Do you work out enough to feel fit and strong?  Do you know that this is the right amount of weight gain for you and your baby?

If you know you're doing what you should be, you should feel great!  If you realize you should be walking more, or watching the cookies (haha, my flaw;) then make a little change and hopefully you'll feel better.  As long as you're secure in your choices, I think you should feel awesome.

brivas07

22 lbs is not bad at all!!!  I was doing so good at first but my weight seems to be slipping out of control.  I am freaking about it.  I gained around 70lbs with my sons (the first 50 in the first half) and it was so hard to lose.  I started at like 105 and went up to 170-175 with them.  This time I started around 115-120 and I THINK I am at 140-145, I refuse to weigh myself and I will not look at the scale when the nurse weighs me.  So, you are doing really good.  Don't beat yourself up about it.

beth thacker

I've gained 36, but i'm swoll up like a balloon. Don't let it get to you. When you have the baby it willl all go away!

PregoCC

Just try and remember its all for a good cause! And maybe you gained more now, and will gain less in the second half of your pregnancy...

 Don't get down on yourself!

Manderlin923

It's okay! So many of us women hold onto body images for so long that I think it's hard to shed that even when we're pregnant and gaining weight for a very important reason. As long as you are eating healthy for the most part then I'm sure it's fine.

I actually have the opposite problem. I started my pregnancy a little bit overweight, maybe 15 pounds or so, but happy with myself pretty much but I am worried I'm not gaining enough weight. I know that's normal too but so far I've only gained about 6 pounds..... For the first time in my LIFE I actually wish I was gaining more weight! But I eat when I'm hungry and even indulge if I want to but eat healthy majority of the time so I guess my body will gain when it needs to gain  

 

Jami lynn

i am right there with ya so just know that you're not gaining at some incredible rate or anything...

MattysGirl81

I was up around 13lbs at my appt last week and really felt like that was a lot.  Compared to other girls on here my bump isn't even that big!  The doctor didn't say anything about it though.  I had been slacking off on my exercise routine so I'm going to pick that up again.

chrissyellen

Your post is much better than a few up "gaining" OMG.

Walking regularly couldnt hurt. Give it a try.

Mrs_mam

I know how you feel. Of course we're supposed to gain weight, but when you actually see it on the scale it's pretty scary! DH was just asking me the other day if I was going to freak when I hit 150 and I said I didn't want to know. Then I weighed myself and I was already there. I'm putting the scale in the closet. And I told him to keep eating ice cream because he's never, ever allowed to weigh less than me.

cmd78

Definitely no flames.  We spend so much time focusing on our weight pre-pregnancy that it's impossible to completely let go of those feelings, even when we're gaining for a good reason.  You?re healthy, the baby is healthy, and you look great so try to stay positive. 

liongish119

I have struggled with weight all my life- about 12 years ago I was at my largest, decided to change, and lost the weight.  Since then I have had to work hard to maintain the loss.  Now pg, I oscillate between being happy that I finally have an excuse not to worry about the creeping scale (24 lbs so far), and freaked out that I'm gaining weight. 

So far the happiness wins, because I remind myself that I am growing a beautiful life, and weight gain is natural and healthy.  Try to stay positive and remember that no one thinks you're fat; saying "you're big" is a compliment- tantamount to saying "Look how healthy you are!  Look at the miracle you are creating!  We are happy for you!"