Do you feel entitled?

jaxgev

I was flying back from Palm Springs today and it was about 85 degrees out.  Our flight was delayed into San Francisco because the weather blows (literally and figuratively).  Anyway, the gate was packed and I really wanted to sit down because I was getting light-headed from the heat so I did so on my suitcase.  This old woman next to me got all pissed because none of the men got up to offer me their seat.  She made a big production but I was totally fine sitting on my suitcase.  I felt terrible because as soon as my husband left like three guys offered me their seat.  I just politely declined.

Then, when I was in the bathroom, all these women wanted to usher me to the front of the line.  I was totally fine waiting but some women looked like they were going to beat the crap out of me if I didn't go ahead of them.  It was so weird.  What do you do?  Do you keep insisting that you're ok or do you risk going ahead and pissing off the other people waiting in line?

HeyyRed

I haven't had anything so dramatic as that but I have noticed that people won't try and go through a doorway before me, they tend to insist that I go first, even if I wasn't there first. I usually smile and thank them very much and try and not draw any more attention to my awkwardness.

BadaBing327

I was always taught to give up my seat to a pregnant woman, elderly person or someone with small children. Now the bathroom thing, everyone's gotta go. LOL.

thatgirlang

I don't feel entitled but I appreciate and accept people being extra nice and caring for you because you are pregnant. We went out to eat when I was pregnant with #1 to a place that was packed and a few people jumped to give me their seat. Did I think they should have done that? Hell yeah! (I was huuuuge)

You know, some people still want to respect old ladies, pregnant ladies, etc and I am ok with it.

theweathermanswife

Wow, are you that big at 16 weeks that people know without a doubt that you are pregnant and are giving you special treatment?  I still feel like people look at me and think, "is she or isn't she?"  Anyway, this hasn't actually happened to me.  I don't feel like I really need special treatment for being pregnant, though.  I'm healthy, I can handle standing a few extra minutes in line to pee, or sitting on my suitcase instead of a chair.

ETA: When I get a lot bigger, I may feel a little differently!

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considering i'm having twins and really need to sit as much as possible- yes, i'll take any seat that is offered to me.

I visit doc offices all day long- and sometimes the waiting rooms get packed-  i normally always give up my seat to any patient- man or woman- but now that i'm pg - i do not offer it to anyone- unless there was an old person who needed it--- but in that case, someone else would generally offer... it has never been an issue.

as for the bathroom- i would not rush to the front of the line... unless i had to go really bad

jaxgev

theweathermanswife:

Wow, are you that big at 16 weeks that people know without a doubt that you are pregnant and are giving you special treatment?

I'm a fairly tall, skinny girl so I either look pregnant or like an edemic Etheopian child with huge boobs.   I also have a touch of the waddle because of my sciatic nerve.

Josh & Calendi

HeyyRed:

I haven't had anything so dramatic as that but I have noticed that people won't try and go through a doorway before me, they tend to insist that I go first, even if I wasn't there first. I usually smile and thank them very much and try and not draw any more attention to my awkwardness.

I agree. It's not common now a days that people are nice to others that they don't know. So I don't expect it or feel entitled, but if it is offered I'm not going to turn down a courteous offer.

jensahokie

I agree with pp.  I don't think I feel entitled.  But I do have to say that if it is going to be a long wait, I would probably be scanning around to look for a seat!

 

Mama Jan

thatgirlang:

I don't feel entitled but I appreciate and accept people being extra nice and caring for you because you are pregnant.

Ditto this.