I know I should get over it, but....

Kelli2507

I really do not like my FI friends. They are obnoxious. If he doesn't want to hang out with them and doesnt answer their REPETITIVE phone calls they call me! they are all 25-27.. ARE YOU KIDDING ME?  then to top it all off they leave him messages saying he's a whimp and whipped and blah blah and blame him wanting to have a lazy day with me on me!  so to shut them up he gives into them and just tells me he's sorry... UGH TELL THEM TO GROW UP! this could be totally hormone related, but I really am sick of it, they do it all the time, not just today.

Mrs.DeliaMarieP

If he gives in to them after telling you he'd spend the day with you, then that is just wrong. 

As for the messages, etc., though immature, I would imagine that they are just busting his balls.

Ultimately, he should answer his phone.  If I were you, I wouldn't answer their calls if it were one of those "date nights."

At the same time, you won't be able to prevent him from going out with them, there has to be a happy medium.  

But he definitely shouldn't make empty promises, either.

Neudorfer

they're single huh?  my dh had to distance himself from a group of his college buddies for the same reason.  they just weren't happy for him and he chose our relationship over theirs- he still talks to them, but as far as being close and hanging out goes- practically non-existent.  i think we all outgrow friends at time, its not bad (kinda sad sometimes...) but its normal because we automatically want to be around people who get where we are at that time.

Starlette1983

I would be really annoyed too,  hormones or no hormones!  Turn off the phones and spend your lazy day with your FI!

Kelli2507

they are ALL attached... one if getting married june 1st, the other is engaged and expecting a baby a month after me.. the thing is ALL their girls have weekend jobs, and i don't.. so they don't even bother calling when their girls are home... they just want to hang out under their own circumstances. i have a feeling once my FI starts his real job in May and he only has the weekends to see me and baby he wil see less of them.. its just hard to deal with, when i'm sitting home alone with this ever expanding mid body.

Jennywren82

Sounds like a bunch of single friends. That can get really annoying, but you need to tell him to man-up and let his friends know how its going to be. He needs to quiet their expectations because he is in a transition in his life and they are thinking he life isn't changing at all.

But wait till your calm and not irritated. It would go over better with nice calm words than nasty barking.

I hope you can get him and his friends on track.?

peppermintgirl

I guess I'm pretty lucky in this regard, because my DH's close friends are also friends of mine. I have no problem with him hanging out with his buddies without me, it just never happens that way. If I don't feel like going out, he usually is content to stay home with me (even though it makes me feel bad). We share one of our closest friends and typically will get together with him and his girlfriend once a week. I can't imagine I'd take it well if people started calling me trying to get him to go out, though. That's overboard and really rude.

CalinsBride

Yeah. If my DH cancelled plans with me because his friends didn't think it was cool that he'd rather be with his family, I'd be having a serious conversation with him about how things are going to be when we're a family of 3 instead of 2. Not okay.