Help what do I do????

FSUSammy

Hey ladies. I hope someone has good advice on what I can do. When Mikey was a baby obviously he was very attached to me. It was very hard for DH to feel connected to him. One of my friends/coworkers told me that once Mikey became more mobile things would change and his daddy would be the center of his universe. Well that turned out to be true and for quite some time my DH was the center of Mikey's universe and it didn't bug me at all. Well for about the last week or so Mikey has been a HUGE momma's boy. He wants NOTHING to do with his dad. He cries when he's left alone with him, running around the house looking for me. He no longer gets up to go greet him at the door when his daddy gets home fro work. When his daddy tries to play with him he complains and wants to do his own thing. But when I play with him he's content. He'll cuddle with me on the couch and stay there for a good 20 minutes before wanting down.

I'm sure this is just another phase but is there anything I can do to help it along?

CesEve99

i definitely think its a phase and this too shall pass!

last week dh was sitting with mady in our living room and she tried to stand up and fell down and dh didnt grab her in time...she wanted nothing to do with him for the rest of the night. its amazing how she connected the "daddy wasnt there for me when i fell" to attach herself to me. she was fine with him the next day though

i always make sure that when dh gets home i go with her and greet him together. i kiss him, then i put her next to him so she can hug him etc. i let him give her dinner sometimes during the week and he changes her to get ready for bed then i take over and rock her to bed.

due to work schedules im always the first to get home and the first person she sees in the morning so i see why the attachment is stronger with me. give it time and include dh as much as possible so mikey can get over this. ohhh and once a month they have mady & daddy day. he usually takes her out on a saturday after lunch (usually to the park) and they hang out, just them two alone for a couple of hours. that helps their bond a lot (and helps me with stuff that i need to get done also!)

MellyMelB

They go through phases, Sam, and I am not sure if you can do much EXCEPT maybe leave them alone together more often - even if Mikey cries initially he should calm down eventually.

We are the main source for these kids. We are with them in the morning before daycare, we pick them up, we are the main caregivers so they cling to their moms. Sophia LOVES Abel. She gets super excited to see him and loves to play with him. Buuut there are phases she goes through (she is in one now actually) where she screams if I leave the room or the house. She wants him there but me, too. Whereas she only cries occasionally if Abel leaves the room. Its super wierd because she does not even cry when I leave her at daycare much.

I agree with Eve that its a phase. Mikey gets a lot of alone time with you and probably a lot less with his daddy. If this is really bothering your DH and you want to help the situation then I would suggest sending them off on their own to the park or the store rather then leaving them alone in the house since that is usually where he is alone with you. Its an idea. Not sure how feasible it is. I think it will pass on its own, though.

MariM

I am no where near this...Nadia is pretty much happy with anyone right now. Mommy, Daddy, Grandma or even a stranger at this point. LOL! I do think the suggestion of sending them out of the house together is a good one... I can imagine this is breaking your husband's heart... I don't know how mine would deal being in this situation!

I hope it is a phase and it passes fast!

FSUSammy

Thanks for the park suggestion! I booked them some alone park time tomorrow afternoon. In the past they'd have alone time at home but there are way too many distractions at home so I think the park is a GREAT idea! And I'll make it a regular outing for the both of them, that way I can get some stuff done around the house too, not a bad thing!

DH helps a lot with the routine at home so I think they just need some really good bonding time without mommy anywhere near. Hopefully it works!

MrsSoldierbride

Its definetly a stage.  Ryan is in it right now too...and the funny thing is that my DH is the one with her more, not me!  But she only wants Mamma.

ANJ410

We are going through EXACTLY the same thing. For the past several days Nicky squirms around when DH picks him up and pushes him away when he tries to kiss him. He just keeps saying "Mom" and reaching for me. Truthfully, I think it has to be a stage because usually he forgets I'm alive when Jimmy is in the room.