I have to go back Monday and it is tearing me up. I want to be a stay at home mom SO badly but we can't afford it (yes I have done all the calculations). Unless we stop paying my student loans, and quit eating, it ain't gonna happen. All I can think about is how much I DO NOT want to go back. Please tell me your encouraging stories of how it was "not that bad."
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Re: Who has gone back to work when they wanted to stay home?
could you do something part-time?
I felt the exact same way. I dreaded going back every day for the last month of my leave. When the day had finally come, I was a mess. The first day was hard, but the leaving was really the hardest part. Once I got to work and back down to business I started enjoying having some adult time again. Going back to work really wasn't as bad as I was imagining and coming back home to him was so great. Plus, I value my time with DS so much more now that I don't spend all day with him.
It'll be okay and you'll both be fine!
I am the breadwinner so there is no way for me to stay home either. It isn't easy but its getting better. I am enjoying my students again but am chomping at the bit to leave right at 3:30 to pick her up and come home.
Good Luck!
I agree that the anticipation was worse than actually going back. But I do have a sweet deal in that I teach p/t, so I am done at 11 and pick up DS at noon. I am debating whether to teach again p/t next year or teach a full day. If I do the latter, we will be in a much better position for me to stay home the following year. But I'm torn b/c I love having at least part of the day with DS.
It will get easier once you get into a routine. If you are in a position to start your own practice, I say go for it. The grow up way too fast!
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I felt the same way and was dreading going back. They let me work from home 1/2 days for 2 weeks and then this week I started back full time. I can honestly say it is not anywhere near as bad as I thought. My job is stressful/fast paced and I like that. I thought I would be crying hysterically and I am not. One thing that I do get to do is go home and lunch and see her, but I think in a few weeks I won't do that as much.
If you enjoyed your job previously it might not be as bad. I really expected it to be worse and actually felt a bit guilty that I was ok with it.
One last thing- I used to work long hours but at 5:30 I am OUT THE DOOR!
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