How do you handle it when 1 baby is crying?

mrskimmieD

So far I have been doing good by myself with them.  However at least once a day I will be feeding one of them while the other starts to fuss.  Once I see one fussing I will stop feeding the other so I can put them in the swing or bouncy seat with a pacifier.  This doesn't always work and the baby will start to cry and I know all they want is to be held but the other one is starving and I feel like I am neglecting one of them.  A few times I have cried along with them because I feel like a bad mom because I can't comfort both of my babies when they need it.

Please tell me how you have gotten through those moments.  I feel so guilty that I can't give each baby 100% of my attention at all times.

hollyoid7

Sometimes they have to cry. I would just keep feeding the one I am feeding. I know it was is hard but if I was to stop feeding the one I was feeding then he would start crying too..

RobynK

Sometimes they have to cry/fuss for a little while - it sucks but they will learn to wait eventually (or that is what I keep telling myself!).  With that said I always feed them at the same time.  I put each of them in a bouncy and sit between them with a bottle for each.  They fuss a bit while I stop to burb but otherwise things have worked out pretty good.

Is it possible for you to feed them at the same time?

Mrs. Destructo

I always made the crying baby wait. I would finish whatever I was doing as quickly as possible, then tend to the one that was crying. IMO, this is the hardest thing about having twin babies

Brusher

I fed them both at the same time in their boppies and sat between them. Sometimes during burping one, the other one fussed but that's life. I assumed from your post that the other baby was fussing b/c they were hungry is that what you mean?

Cave1115

Those situations are the worst!  How I handled it really depended on what was going on at the time as far as who was hungry, tired, wet, etc.  If the baby that was crying wasn't hungry, just needed attention I would sometimes put them in the bouncy and use my foot to rock it or the swing with a Binky like you were saying you do.  As pp's said, as terrible as you feel, they just have to cry sometimes. I swear the first things my kids understood were "one minute", "it's almost your turn", "I wish Mommy had more arms!" and "hang on, I need to help your brother/sister first"...lol.  It's defintely hard, but gets easier!

macchiatto

That is definitely the hardest part about having twins!! (At least so far.) I agree that it depends on what's happening. I go back and forth between feeding them together and having a staggered schedule--sometimes feeding together goes smoothly and sometimes they both just get too upset by the interruptions to burp the other (or get a refill if someone's extra hungry) and not being held, etc. DH and I keep experimenting to see what works best in terms of trying to keep both happy and honestly, it seems to change from week to week and day to day! We definitely do have to let one cry at times though and, like a pp (I think it was goldenmama) said, just try to finish what you're doing as quickly as possible and then help the crying baby. we do try to talk soothingly to them while they are waiting.

mrskimmieD

I feel like a moron because I never thought to try and feed them at the same time.  I have been feeding one at a time with the exception of when MH is home and we will feed both at the same time.  I will try doing that today for one of their feedings and see how it goes.

megkreig

I have been known to stand up holding the boppy pillow with one baby nursing to move next to the crying child.  DH laughs but at least then i can be with the crying child to start comforting him/her while the other twin nurses.