Would you call someone else's child a brat?

momintn

How would you react to someone calling your 4 1/2 yr old a brat?  This happened last week and I was curious what others would do in this situation.

Amber Bowles

Was it another adult? If so, I would definitely have a problem with that. Especially if my child heard them say that!

xbrooklyngrl

in front of me? I'd rip their head off.

amiamish

I've not been in thier situation, so it'd be really "judgy" of me to do that. I don't think I could ever say that to someone about their child...

mrscolleton2b

xbrooklyngrl:

in front of me? I'd rip their head off.

ditto

momintn

Yes, it was an adult and she said it to her face.  This adult is also a psychologist!

breezee_bean

never.ever.  If my child did do something wrong (push, not share etc.) I would tell that person that my chid wasn't being a good listener/sharer whatever.  But that is in now way shape or form "bratty."  I would probably be really mad and have a tone to my voice=P

aprilmomtobe

what was the context?  were they joking?

fIowerchild

I would be shocked and upset.

camrude

Called the child a brat to the parent/DC face? If someone said it to my face I'd definiatly have something to say...but my response would be different depending on the person (family, friend, random stranger). If anyone said it TO Maddie I would not be happy at all and my response would probably be less nice than if they said it just to me.I would NEVER call a child a brat to their face or even to the parent. There are better ways of stating inappropriate behavior IMO.?

stacynikki

It depends on the situation.  If DS was being a brat and he didn't hear it then I might not say anything.  If he was being a brat and he heard it I would have a problem with it.  If he wasn't really being a brat just a two year old whether he heard it or not I'd ditto xbg!

JOEBunny

Like saying, "Martha's child is was such a brat the other day at our playdate." to me, when Martha, nor the child was present?  That I would just take as normal venting after a rotten playdate.  If an adult yelled, "Your a brat."  at my child, I would probably say that wasn't necessary, unless the child was truely being horrid.

pookie2005

Only behind their back...:)

momintn

It's kind of a long story but it was not said jokingly.  She was serious.  

katie277s

Dude, I get upset with myself for calling my son a bad boy  I would be extrememly mad if someone (especially an adult) called my son a brat. 

KrisBriMcBunny

I have once to my friend....I told her that her daughter was a brat.  But I would never say it to the child.  Yes my friend got mad at me...I did apologized but she knew I meant what I said and knew where I was coming from.  Its funny because 18 yrs later she now admits that she was in denial and that the main reason why her daughter was a brat was because she was not the best parent and allowed her daughter to do whatever she want because she didnt want to deal with her daughter's tantrums.

xbrooklyngrl

yeah, no I wouldn't be ok with that.

I hope someone didn't say this to one of your kids and if they did, I hope you kicked her ass.

Alibabs

For a psychologist to say that to a child sounds very wrong to me......

I call my next door neighbours kids worse than that...but not to their or their parents faces!! 

mlm1128

Sometimes Madelyn does act like a brat, and it is my job to correct her behavior not someone else's. I would be totalley ticked off if someone called her a brat to her face, or in front of me. 

getnmarried910

I might say it to my husband or sister or best friend, but I'd never say it to the parent or the child.  If it was my sister or best friend's ki, I might tell them their child acted like a brat all day, but they would do the same.

summerbrideDC

I'd be furious. ?My mother has called Ethan a brat before and it did NOT go over well.

KoriBrett

nooooo

DH told Sam she was being a brat last week and I reamed him out for it.  He still doesn't understand why I was mad.

DaiLyght

momintn:

Yes, it was an adult and she said it to her face.  This adult is also a psychologist!

That is disgusting behavior for an adult, and I would have no reservations at all in telling her so.

hopefulmom

Would I call someone's child a brat...probably (if they were) but not to their face.  I would just make a general comment to someone else (and have) and they have agreed with me.  I doubt I would tell a parent their child was a brat unless said child was doing something to my child.  Then I'd have no reservation.  Last I knew this is a country of free speech and that is part of it.  It wouldn't bother me in the least if they went off on me...I'd ignore it (not get in an argument).  If someone called my child a brat to my child I would tell my child that is not the case (unless they really were being a brat which is always a possibility).  On the other hand if they tell me my child is/was a brat I would not say anything...except maybe ask why.  Most parents know when their kids are being brats (whether you want to call them that or  not) so when it is pointed out it is time to work on the "bratty" behavior.

snickerdoodle27

Not to their face I wouldn't.

belle204

Never to their face. My family has called A a brat and almost got a fist in the face.