In-law advice

Shoop-na-doopa

So, does anyone have in-laws with whom they don't see eye-to-eye? For the last couple years, things haven't been great -- but we were hoping a baby coming into the picture would help things and we could restart a relationship. However, it seems to have made them more bitter about past happenings....

Anyone been in this situation or have any advice? My husband and I really want them to be involved with this baby....but I don't want to exponse the baby to negativity or bitterness. Is there a middle ground?  

Laura&Mikey

I don't care for my MIL for several reasons, and I know at times she has not cared for me. Since finding out we were pg I have just faked it w/ her and she seems to be doing the same with me. Hopefully you can find a better resolution than I did. It works but is not great. GL

beth thacker

I don't really have this problem but I just wanted to tell you good luck. Maybe when the baby is here they will lose the bitterness and will be a part of the childs life.

IsaiahGirl

I don't know if it's quite the same situation, but apparently, my in-laws had been feeling left out and thought we spent more time with my family (which is about quadruple the size).  We never really meant for them to feel that way; we were just trying to be fair to everyone.

What we ended up doing is going out of our way to make them feel included, ask their advice with all things baby, and things ended up working out.  We did sit them down and talk to them about it, so they knew it wasn't intentional and that we were working on it.  We also asked them not to be so sensitive, but when it did seem like we were favoring my side to let us know.

Including them as much as possible helped the most, and it got them excited about the baby, which was the best possible thing.

I don't know if this will help or not, but I hope it all works out.  That type of stress is definitely not something you need during pregnancy!