Sorta MoM related but friend vent

HisLobster

So, today DH and I met one of his buddies and his FI for lunch. They're getting married in September and DH is one of the groomsmen. We've known little to nothing about the wedding until today.

At lunch, I tell her that I won't be coming, it'll just be DH. She seems upset by that, but I told her with 3 1/2 month old twins, I just wasn't going to be able to make the trip (which I find out is a 5-hour drive). DH tries to make it out to be a breastfeeding thing to smooth things over, but I just told her being that far from home, having 2 just wasn't going to work. Then she mentions her cousin who's due a month before the wedding will be bringing her singleton (good for her!).

She's all "won't you be pumping?" Well, yes but how does that affect the fact that there are still 2 babies!!?  Then come to find out, the groomsmen are supposed to stay at her aunt's house. Where does that leave me? Some hotel alone with twins? Yeah right. She doesn't seem to understand that me trying to calm twins while DH is busy with wedding party stuff is not what I call a good day!  Oh well. We don't have anyone to leave them with overnight either so I'll just stay home (not a problem for me).

 I did kind of feel bad that the waitress asked her if she was pregnant too after we ordered.

Sorry so long.

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people with out babies- let alone twins- have NO clue what it's like- and esp a bride - they forget that the world does not care about their wedding anywhere near as much as they do I wouldn't worry about it- someday she'll feel like an asshat for acting that way- when she's home with one trying to figure out how to leave the house to get groceries

mnj917

I don't even know what to say to that!  Wow!  Sounds like this woman has NO IDEA what it entails to pack one baby, let alone TWO for a trip.  It's not like you can just leave some of the stuff at home - nope - you have to take everything and by 3&1/2 months, you may need 2 pack & plays...nah - you are wayyyyyyy right in not going.  Sure, they are giving you lots of notice, but once she has kids, she'll understand. 

armo

For events like this, some people are worth all that it takes, and others just don't make the cut.  Poor thing doesn't realize she's not worth all that trouble!  And with DH in the wedding party, you'd definitely need someone to help you, and i would never want to go if i were you (unless i had my mom - my savior - come along with me).  Good choice!

cands

She's going to get married, get pregnant, and next summer you guys will be planning some BBQ or something and she'll say she can't come because she has the baby, and she'll say that people just don't understand how hard it is to take a few month old baby out....and then you want to be very careful that you don't roll your eyes more than a few times because you wouldn't want to hurt your eyes rolling them too much.

kimby3679

She's just too self obsessed to think about what it would  be like for you. I would never think about bringing mine to a wedding where DH couldn't help out, let alone one where they insited he stay somewhere else! And the person who is bringing a 1mo old is nuts! Its one thing to venture out in public at a month, but to subject a new baby to a whole lot of people, all of whom will want to touch it is something else all together!